What It's Really Like To Lose Your Virginity On Your Wedding Night

Photographed by Megan Madden.
While it was once unheard of to know someone who'd had premarital sex (or, at least, someone willing to admit it), many millennials would now be hard-pressed to point toward someone who waited to have sex. It seems that the old idiom, "Why would anyone buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" has been replaced with, "Why buy the car before you take it for a test drive?"
While both idioms bring funny images to mind, they're far from light-hearted. At their roots, both sayings attempt to police other people's sexual choices, whether that's through telling them that it's bad to have sex before marriage, or that it's dumb to marry someone before you know whether or not they're good in bed.
Many people on the "don't buy the car" side claim that not having sex before marriage means that you risk tying yourself to someone who can't give you what you want. But, how true is that, really? We looked to the kind people of Reddit to tell us what it's really like to lose your virginity on your wedding night. As one person wisely pointed out, "sexual compatibility is something you and your partner create together, not an attribute you possess." So, let's stop with the judgement on both sides and just let people live.
Read on for 13 stories from people who lost their virginity on their wedding night.
Read these stories next:

More from Sex & Relationships

R29 Original Series