I had relationships end because I wanted to wait to have sex.
"My only real regret is that I made the decision out of fear of judgement and punishment and I don't think that intimacy should have anything to do with fear." — CromCruach1
It made sex this other thing in our relationship.
"If I could do it over, I wouldn't wait. Not so much because I think sex is great, but because I would have wanted sex to feel like a normal thing instead of thinking of it as something that's dirty and bad now, but will be good later." — Innerouterself
I personally feel like it made us closer.
"I think our first time wasn't necessarily any better or worse than it would have been any other time, really. We were somewhat awkward virgins, and it was pretty painful for me at first, but it didn't take long for us to get the hang of things and now it's incredible.
"I personally feel like it made us closer because we got to learn about ourselves and our preferences together. It's easy to try new things, because everything we've ever done together was new for both of us. Obviously, I've never been on the other side of the experience, so I can't say waiting was better or worse, but if I had it to do over I would absolutely still wait." — Author-in-Scarlett
Waiting for sex was important to us, so the awkward and difficult stuff was easier to put up with.
"I would much rather have lost my virginity and learned how to have good sex with my husband whom I love, than with some guy in high school or (as my friend did) someone [I] met at a party." — eucalyptusmacrocarpa
I believe that sex is a spiritual experience.
Sexual compatibility is something you and your partner create together.
Epic disappointment for both parties.
"The next day though, we gave it a whirl... or tried, I should say.
"I'm not entirely sure how much of it was because of our inexperience and how much of it was because of my husband's disability (mild cerebral palsy), but we couldn't get it in. Tried and failed and switched positions and tried and failed until we gave up and just did other things. Epic disappointment for both parties as far as having real sex goes...
"It's like, you wait your whole life for that one moment, and then it just doesn't work out the way you had imagined." — i-am-willow
It hurt for a second and it was over another second later.
"On our wedding night, he couldn't get the right angle to get in and had a premature detonation. I was too shy to help guide him in. He said, 'Shit! I'm so sorry!' and then we went to sleep. Repeat for a few days until finally BOOM! It hurt for a second, and it was over another second later. We've been married 10 years now, we're happy and have a good, healthy sex life. I think we're both rather easygoing and found it rather funny. It helped that neither of us had high expectations that it was going to be magic the first few (50) times. We still tease each other about it now." — Ranucolo
It was NOT the best sex ever, not even close.
We sometimes seem to forget that it's just a thing we can do.
"The big problem that we have is that we were together for four years before we got married, so we got really good at not having sex. Even after being married for a few years we sometimes seem to forget that it's just a thing we can do instead of watching old Futurama or Top Chef." — FingersMcGee14
We went to our hotel, ordered Pizza Hut, she changed into lingerie, and I waited on the bed.
"We also had a variety of condoms (ribbed, flavoured, etc) and oil to use. My best friend had also given me some tips on how to make sure I didn't ejaculate too early, which was very helpful.
"We went to our hotel after the wedding, ordered Pizza Hut, she changed into lingerie, and I waited on the bed. We both got to know each other a bit more, and then had a great first time. So basically, if you're waiting, just be prepared, talk with each other about expectations, see your Ob/Gyn, have lots of ideas of things you wanna try, and have fun." —I_am_not_a_burrito
Our wedding night was awesome and hilarious.
We played Rock Paper Scissors for who would take their clothes off first.
"It wasn't as if we just had great sex immediately (I was painfully tight and also a bit fearful, and he couldn't last for very long), but that didn't really matter. We talked openly, spent time together, touched each other, enjoyed being together, and laughed a lot (we played Rock, Paper, Scissors for who would take their clothes off first).
"So honestly, the first night in terms of sex was pretty disappointing, but neither of us were disappointed because we weren't just looking forward to sex, we were looking forward to being married. And, we were thrilled that we were finally married and got to live together!" — GetOutTheWayBanana