The Bed Post

From time to time, The Bed Post features other voices. This week, I speak with anti-female-genital-mutilation campaigner Alimatu Dimonekene on how FGM harm

“People think that I’m saving myself,” Lesli tells me. There's both amusement and exasperation in her voice. “Typically, it&rs

Amy Schumer didn't say yes, but she doesn't call it rape — not publicly, anyway. Earlier this week, Marie Claire published an online previe

“I love your verses with all my heart, dear Miss Barrett, and this is no off-hand complimentary letter that I shall write, whatever else, no prompt m

Kenyan-born and Tanzania-based sexual health educator Maureen Oduor knows that soda doesn’t prevent pregnancy, but not all of the young women she cou

This story was originally published on February 17, 2016. Last week, Reddit user ismybfwrongorme submitted a since-removed post to the Relationships subred

This story was originally published on March 30, 2016.A woman about my age and an older man standing close together were having a spirited discussion in my

You've written me with questions, and this week, I'm answering some. Check Refinery29's Snapchat Discover Channel every Saturday for answers

From time to time, The Bed Post features other voices opening up about what gets in the way of good sex. This week, I speak with relationship coach Effy Bl

What follows is my interview with my partner after our first sex party (either individually or together), conducted over Gchat, condensed and lightly edite

When someone tells me they aren’t sure whether they’ll vote in the presidential election, I get annoyed. When they say it’s because they

From time to time, The Bed Post features other voices opening up about what gets in the way of good sex. This week, I speak with sex-positive funny person

Did you know that open relationships never work and casual sex is a lie you whisper to yourself as you try in vain to suppress your pair-bonding instincts?

Sometimes, my sex life feels suspiciously unfeminist. That feeling isn't fair, either to myself or my partner. But the numbers don't lie: I &mdas

In the first birds-and-the-bees talk I ever had with a grown-up, I was told that, above all, sex is special. It sounded a little ominous, like a big respon

How the hell do you have an open relationship? A respectful, loving one, I mean, in which both partners are enthusiastic about the arrangement and committe

Sometimes during sex, I use my phone. I check email, summon an Uber home, send a text, or, on rare occasions, hold up my end of a phone conversation as I t

This story was originally published on January 20th, 2016.If you've escaped the classic blow job head push over the course of your sex life, you are a