These Remote Control Sex Toys Let Your Partner Control Your Orgasm

Remote control sex toys hit a lot of fantasy elements. Some people love them because you can use them in public without anyone knowing. Some people love them because they let you give up control to your partner. And some people love them because they let you or your partner create a customized vibration for you to masturbate with. Whatever the appeal, the advance of technology has made remote-control sex toys easier to find than ever.

Remote-control sex toys aren’t limited to bullet vibes, either. There are remote-control G-spot vibes, remote-control kegel toys, remote-control cock rings, and remote-control butt plugs on the market, too. Some of these toys are designed to be used long-distance, so your partner can make you orgasm from another state. Others are designed to be used in close contact, so you or your partner can change up the intensity of the vibration while you’re having sex. Whatever you’re looking for, it probably exists — and we hope we can help you find it.

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YTOY Wearable Panty Vibrator with Wireless Remote Control


How it works: Slip this curvy, butterfly-shaped vibe into your underwear for a secret sexy moment with you and your partner.

They're saying: "If you’re looking for a fun new toy, you’ve found it. It’s very powerful and quiet, and the different vibrations are perfect so you can change based on your mood and the intensity you want. The remote gives the user full control of the settings without ever having to touch the unit itself. It’s a super smooth silicone texture so it’s really easy to clean. Overall, it’s a great product. I’d highly recommend it for a fun new experience."
YTOY Wearable Panty Vibrator with Wireless Remote Control, $24.98 Buy

We-Vibe Unite

How it works: As the name suggests, the Unite is made for making partner play hotter than ever with this remote-controlled clit and G-spot stimulator.

They're saying: "The We-Vibe Unite is amazing. You sort of sandwich it between both people (it's soft and the arm is adjustable) so it hits all the right spots. While we don't use use it all the time, the extra vibration can really put our sessions over the top. Highly recommend!"
We-Vibe UNITE Couples Vibrator (Purple) - We-Vibe, $144.00 Buy

Better Love Fiji Couples Vibrator


How it works: The curved shape is similar to the Unite vibe in the previous slide, which conforms to your body, for targeted stimulation with or without a partner.

They're saying: "My partner goes crazy when I bring this out. It sits on her clit nicely to add extra stimulation."
Better Love Fiji Couples Vibe Couples Vibrator (Purple) - Better Love, $79.00 Buy

CalExotics Silicone Remote Pleasure Vibrating Cock Ring


How it works: This ring stretches to hug the base of the penis to add intense vibrating sensation to the partner's clitoris (if they have a vagina) or perineum.

They're saying: "Feels great. The ring gets my clit right on the spot and I like how I can instantly change the vibration with the remote. Top notch."
CalExotics Silicone Remote Pleasure Vibrating Cock Ring, $44.95 Buy
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Desire Luxury App-Controlled Rechargeable Panty Vibrator


How it works: This flexible saddle-shaped vibrator boasts eight patterns (with 12 levels of pulsing intensity) and can be controlled either manually or via the built-in app for partner play.

They’re saying: "Wow, words really won't cut it for this clever and amazing thing.

"The design is really good, although I think it would have been slightly better if there was a kind of clip to keep it attached to your undies. You have have to adjust it slightly time to time. But for me I find the shape and size of this toy perfect for me. Sits really nice against my clit and opening. There is truly a setting for everyone and the power this little thing kicks out is mind blowing."


Lovehoney Desire Desire Luxury App Controlled Rechargeable Panty Vibrator, $124.99 Buy

CalExotics Silicone Remote Rechargeable Curve Vibe


How it works: The design is similar to the Desire panty vibrator from the last slide, but with an added ergonomic curve to fit your body in all the right places.

They're saying:
"This vibrator is very quiet, makes barely any sound, but i can guarantee you that the vibrations are quite powerful! The curve is perfect."
CalExotics Silicone Remote Rechargeable Curve Vibe, $59.95 $29.98 Buy

Pipedream Fantasy For Her G-Spot Stimulate-Her Vibe in Purple


How it works: This double-trouble remote-controlled toy stimulates the G-spot while also providing some anal action, too.

They're saying:
"Amazingggggg - instantly brings me from 0-100 in about 20 seconds. So many patterns to pick from to mix things up and it fits perfectly and is very smooth. Would recommend 12/10."
Pipedream Fantasy For Her G-Spot Stimulate-Her Vibe in Purple, $99.99 $59.95 Buy

LELO Lyla 2


How it works: This bullet vibe comes with a remote, so you can wear it in public and let your partner turn it — and you — on. Of course, it works in private just as well.

They’re saying: “We have so much fun with it. It’s our little secret. We take it when we go on date night to the bar or dinner. He likes to take it shopping so he can find me.”
LELO LYLA 2, $159.00 Buy

Lovehoney Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg

How it works: Wear this “love egg” for internal stimulation — you or your partner can control the vibration with a remote.

They’re saying: “My first vibrator purchase. Wow! It was an immediate hit with my partner. She uses hardly any sex toys without me. She likes the role play and the whole bondage thing, but only with lucky me. However, I have seen her sit down to watch TV with me, with a big smile on her face. Then she shows me she has this egg vibrator inside her! And she builds and builds until she must run out of the room. I think that is one of the sexiest things I've ever seen!”
Lovehoney Desire Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator, $89.99 $62.99 Buy
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Fifty Shades Of Grey Relentless Vibrations Remote Control Egg

How it works: The Fifty Shades licensed variation features a curvy egg design that fits you in all the right places, and includes a remote for partner play.

They're saying: "Another of this toy's design features I absolutely love is the easy to hold remote itself, even when slippery thanks to its doughnut shape, which feels very nice in hand. The materials used are second to none, both the egg itself and the remote. Combine this with powerful deep, rumbling vibrations and this toy is hard to beat. The cord and the egg are one solid mould and feels very high quality, very strong and should last for years to come. Its more than adequate length allows perfect positioning of the egg without worry and the loop is soft enough my partner doesn't even notice it when wearing."
Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Love Egg Kegel - Fifty Shades of Grey, $106.00 Buy

Satisfyer Partner Plus Remote

How it works: This couple’s vibe is meant to be used during P-in-V sex: slip one end into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot and penis, while the other stimulates the clit. Either one of you can adjust the pattern of the vibration with a remote.

They’re saying: “Amazing toy, my husband and I enjoyed it so much!!!”
Satisfyer Satisfyer Partner Plus Couples Vibrator with Remote Con, $39.90 Buy

We-Vibe Moxie with Remote


How it works: Slip this clitoral vibe into your panties and let your partner control it with an app — either from across the room or across the country.

They’re saying: “While stuck in traffic, on a conference call that just won’t end, or in other places I won’t even mention (because they were SUPER naughty of me), this is the toy that packs serious punch without requiring batteries or hiding it in a bag.
We-Vibe Moxie with Remote Vibrator - We-Vibe, $144.00 Buy

Mystery Vibe Crescendo


How it works: This bendable vibe can be adjusted for solo or couple’s play and works with both vaginas and penises. It connects to an app, so you or your partner can control it while you’re using it.

They’re saying: “Regardless of whether you’re cradling your testicles with it or using it to bring your G-spot to new heights, this little gift gets into all the hard-to-reach places.”
Mystery Vibe Mystery Vibe Crescendo App Controlled Bendable Smart Vibrator, $149.99 Buy

We-Vibe Nova

How it works: This rabbit-style vibe can be controlled via app, so while you can’t use it in public, your partner can control the intensity from the vibrations from across the room — or across the world.

They’re saying: “This is probably one of the greatest sex toys I have ever came I to contact with honestly. My husband loves to be able to control it and please me with it how he sees fit. It literally gives Earth-shattering orgasms. It's appealing to the eye and very smooth to the touch.”
We-Vibe NOVA Rabbit Vibrator (Pink) - We-Vibe, $214.00 Buy
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LELO Hula Beads


How it works: These “pleasure beads” rotate and vibrate as you wear them, and your partner can control them with a remote.

They’re saying: “While I cannot achieve an orgasm with it alone (at least not yet), the Hula Bead sensitizes the area so well that it does not take me long after my husband moves on to other tactics. That has extended our play time, which has been wonderful. I love the remote, although it is a little loud. We have older children, so I will turn the Hula Beads on, put them in, give the remote to my husband, and head to bed. Later once the kids have fallen asleep, he'll turn on the remote and wake me up! That in itself is quite the turn on and has been wonderful for our relationship, and lets me get some sleep before we get started!”
LELO HULA Beads, $189.00 Buy

Lovehoney Wild Thing Remote Control Vibrating Cock Ring


How it works: This stretchy cock ring can be placed over your or your partner’s penis and testicles — then, make it buzz with a remote. It can be worn during sex or solo.

They’re saying: “It's simple to synch the devices together. Pretty much just switch them on. I gave the controller to my wife and on she jumped. As with other cock rings, we found cowgirl and doggy style to be the best positions, so she got maximum enjoyment from the bobbles on the ring. The bullet is intense, very strong vibrations, especially at max speed (there are 6), but playing with different patterns (there are 10) didn't seem to change the enjoyment level from very good. Solo playing is also fun — certainly heightens my sensations at orgasm.”
Lovehoney Lovehoney Wild Thing 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Cock Ring, $49.99 $30.00 Buy

B-Vibe Rimming Plug Butt Plug

How it works: This butt plug can be controlled with an app, even from long-distance — you can even sync it to music if that's your thing.

They’re saying: “Get it girl, you will not be disappointed. The remote is fun for your partner or for you when they go home. Best part is there is no other butt plug like this in the market. It will change your sex life, in the best way possible! Hey now!”
B-Vibe Rimming Plug Butt Plug - B-Vibe, $214.00 Buy

Satisfyer Endless Love Multi-Function Vibrator


How it works: Stimulate a G-Spot, clitoris, penis, nipples, anus – you name it. It has a noticeable scrubber texture and thin arms, providing an ergonomic shape and increase of sensation. There are separate controls for the main body and pleasure arms, with 100 combinations possible.

They're saying: "I ordered this out of curiosity, not really knowing if it would work for us but the reviews were so great (&so was the price) that I decided to give it a try. OMG! My spouse and I both love this. Possibilities are endless and it can be used in multiple ways where we both get off at the same time! Get this! You need it!"
Satisfyer Satisfyer Endless Love Multi-Function Vibrator, $49.95 Buy

Rosy Gold Remote Control Vibrating Egg


How it works: Rub the 'egg' on your clitoris, perineum, and wherever else you're feeling the need for some stimulation. It's also totally waterproof.

They're saying: "We have to change the batteries after each use. That’s the only problem. Remote works from a good distance, but you do have to push the buttons kinda hard sometimes. Vibrations are very intense, but noise level is a little loud."


EDC Rosy Gold Remote Control Vibrating Egg, $59.95 Buy
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Eve's Rechargeable Remote Control Bullet


How it works: There are nine different intensities to this little (about 3 inches long) 'bullet' vibrator, and it can be controlled via remote up to 50 feet away. Take it to the bath, cause it's waterproof.

They're saying: "It is small but it packs a wallop. A little noisy for use in public and no tab to extract it from inside, but it is a great compliment to using other toys, or just you."
Adam and Eve Eve's Rechargeable Remote Control Bullet, $29.95 Buy

Venus Butterfly Remote Rocking Penis


How it works: A vibrator and an homage to a delightfully '00s butterfly vibe, this remote controlled toy can work from up to 30-something feet of distance. It has 12 different vibrations and pulsations, and a "smart" pleasure tip that rocks back and forth.

They're saying: First of all, I would like to say that the quality of the service of your phone operators is very good: efficient and knowledgeable. The product itself is high quality and easy to use, and the satisfaction of my partner was evident. The only negative was that one of the gifts: the little vibrator with accessories was broken right out of the package, but as I said the rest of experience made me go back for more toys.

Cal Exotics Venus Butterfly Remote Rocking Penis, $89.95 Buy

We-Vibe Moxie Panty Vibrator

How it works: This discreet vibrator is designed to be tucked inside your underwear with a little magnetic clip, and controlled from a distance of up to 30 feet. The powerful motor delivers 10 different vibrations.

They're saying: It’s a good little vibrator that’s fun because your partner can control it from their phone from close or afar but the noise isn’t that discrete.

We-Vibe We-Vibe Moxie Panty Vibrator, $129.00 Buy

Pulsy Playball Play Seth

How it works: Get a kegel workout with these pretty purple balls, which comes with an equally chic, gold-zipper bag. The 'playball' is designed to work the G-Spot while the buzzing remote can pleasure the clitoris. Both of the vibrators come with 10 modes, and are compatible with water-based lubes.

They're saying: When I ordered this, I guess I didn't read the description closely enough, because I was very pleasantly surprised to find out that the remote also doubles as a vibrator! I think this is a very cool toy. I have a small collection of toys and it seems like a lot of ben wa balls are pretty generic. I love that this incorporates vibration into your weight training and that you can stimulate your clit without taking out another vibrator. Another great thing is the long tail assists in removal, so if you're less comfortable with removing traditional kegel balls, you can still reap the benefits of kegel exercises. The toy is very quiet compared to others I've used..."
RIANNE S Pulsy Playball Play Set, $59.95 Buy
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