Let's be real: cruising the web for the perfect Valentine's Day gift for your non-binary boo can be hard. The traditional Valentine’s Day cliches — pink and red, plushies, flowers, and chocolates — can be cute, but they’re also so last century, and sometimes all you can find are extremely hetero-centric, gendered, and binary options that aren’t remotely appropriate. (Who knew so many websites had a "For Her" and a "For Him" section?) If you, too, are struggling with what to get your genderqueer significant other this Valentine's Day, then keep scrolling. Your fellow non-binary shopping expert has you covered with some super-romantic and queer-friendly gifting ideas.
Everyone knows flowers are gender-neutral. And who doesn't love that oh-so-special feeling of getting flowers for Valentine's Day? This bright and beautiful bouquet from The Sill — created in collaboration with florist Poppy Flowers — is sure to stun anyone. Each bouquet comes with equipped with plant food, and the option to include a glass vase to create one beautiful display.
Creating a romantic playlist for your non-binary partner can be a challenge — especially when most love songs are a.) extremely hetero, and b.) feature exclusively she/her and he/him pronouns. Toss out those non-inclusive norms and head to Uncommon Goods, where you can “buy” a song that’s unique to them. I can't think of anything more romantic.
It can be hard to find a Valentine's card that doesn't use she/her or he/him pronouns or include words like "girlfriend" or "boyfriend." Thanks to LookHUMAN’s perfectly neutral cards, there’s no need to scratch out gendered terms and replace them with your partner's preferred pronouns.
Fellow non-binary approved, Snif's new fragrance collection is that perfect balance between cologne and perfume that we all crave. Collection 3 is all about the soft suede, leather, soft florals, and the hints of sweetness scents. Beautiful bottles, dramatic scents, and extremely long-lasting — you get to even try the collection for free before committing to keeping it (that means you only pay for what you keep, so if you get the kit and you keep all three, that's $150, but if you only keep one that's $65).
Sexual comfort is of the utmost importance on Valentine’s Day (and any day, for that matter). These natural-latex and super stretchy disposable panties are exactly what you need if exposing your genitals during sex provokes dysphoric feelings. Described as silky on the outside and with a slip-free texture on the inside, the ultra thin-undies will your keep bits out of sight without dampening any physical sensations – ensuring that the only thing happening between the sheets is pleasure and fun.
If you prefer to spend the big bucks and surprise your boo with some jewelry, they'll be in awe with this high-quality recycled 14K gold and black onyx necklace from Mejuri. Bonus: if they're into crystals and all their meanings, then they'll love that onyx has protective and grounding properties.
Everyone feels sexy in a short black satin robe, regardless of gender. The ultimate two-in-one gift for your Valentine, this silky layer is perfect for both intimate foreplay and solo self-care moments.
This all-in-one toy comes straight from all your sweetest non-gendered dreams, with a silhouette that will bestow pleasure pretty much anywhere below the waist. Whether you use the friendly, cone-shaped device as a vibrating butt plug or a clitoral stimulator, the Princette, according to reviews, is the “cutest little buddy” that “does not disappoint.” Created by and for non-binary and queer people of all shapes and sizes, these cute little fuckers are exactly that — cute, versatile, and fucking great.
If your partner's vibe is makeup-and-glitter galore, then anything from the gender-inclusive and queer-centric brand Fluide will be a major win. Glitter is a year-round thing, after all.
I don't know about you, but I'm a sucker for anything displaying my pronouns. From pins to stickers, I want it all. Your boo is probably no exception. Keep warm with this tie-dyed “they/them” beanie with the trans colors (pink, blue, and white), created by a non-binary Puerto Rican artist.
Crafted by queer folk for queer folk, this is the velvety, CBD-infused pleasure potion that will add a clean-beauty spin to your intimacy. The serum is made of just two all-natural ingredients: organic MCT coconut oil and broad-spectrum extract from USA-grown hemp.
No queer, non-binary person can have too many Converse high-tops. The limit simply does not exist — and the reason why is just another queer mystery. Safe to say, this velvety, green shade will go with any outfit — whether it's more feminine or masculine.
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