I think I reconcile this by reminding myself that single women deserve whatever they want — or don’t want. I believe in that, I champion that, and I champion us, all kinds of us. But I can’t deny that it would feel really validating, confidence-boosting and simply welcoming if the response when I say I don’t want children wasn’t "OMG why?" but instead "Cool, should we get fries for the table?" I know it’s completely okay for a woman to be single, and completely okay for a woman to not want kids. And spouse or no spouse, dog or cat, babies or no babies, she’s right.