A Sexpert’s Guide To Toys That Make Unforgettable Gifts

Turns out, you can put a bow on an orgasm — or, at least, get pretty darn close depending on which sex toys you're stuffing in the proverbial stocking this holiday season. That’s right, sweet beans, sex toys make excellent gifts for lovers and platonic pals alike! (Also: treat yo self.) We chatted with Marla Renee Stewart — an MA-certified sexpert for adult-wellness brand Lovers, professional intimacy coach, seasoned author, and all-around sparkly oracle for our most burning sex toy questions — to get the full scoop on just how unforgettable vibrator to butt-plug presents can be.
“When you're out shopping, it's best to keep an open mind, and be thoughtful with what you get,” she continues, “Is it your lover or friend's favorite color? Is it similar to another toy that broke? Is it something that they've been craving for a while?” Stewart’s advice is empowering because it’s direct. It also doubles as a reminder to check-in with the people we care about and, when it's appropriate, ask about their more intimate needs. For those who may not know how to break the ice, Stewart suggests “saying something like, ‘My friend, Coco, got this new sex toy and she says it's amazing. What do you think about that? Is that something that you would like to try?’ That way, there's less pressure and you can frame it outside of yourself to see if your lover is interested in exploring that.” When in doubt, keep Stewart’s go-to term in mind: thoughtfulness. Why pick a certain suction vibrator, out of all the other suction vibrators at the ball? What makes it the best expression of thoughtfulness?
Consider the following your very own sexpert's shopping guide to the best sex toys worth gifting this holiday season — we've included some of our personal favorites along with toys beloved by Stewart herself. Here’s to the gifts that keep on giving (orgasms)!
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