Shani Silver

“Self-preservation is a full time occupation.” -Ani DiFranco, Talk To Me Now, 1990 I think a lot about supposed tos. What single women are supposed

“Yo sé perder / Pero / Ay ay ay, cómo me duele.” -Selena, Como La Flor, 1992 To say I’ve been single and dating for 11 years with nothing to

“You don’t always have to be who they want you to be, you know.” - Katarina Stratford, 10 Things I Hate About You, 1999 My big premise is that

“What it all comes down to Is that everything's gonna be fine, fine, fine 'Cause I've got one hand in my pocket And the other one is giving a high

Carmine: “Red roses, lovely, romantic. The guy that sends these really knows what he’s doing." Loretta: "The guy who sends those spends a lot of money

“Life is not tried, it is merely survived / If you're standing outside the fire.” -Garth Brooks, 1993 I’ve lived a lot of my single life waiting

“You had someone to go places with. You had a date on national holidays!” - Marie, When Harry Met Sally, 1989 For Sarah* Perspective is everything.

“For my will is as strong as yours, and my kingdom is as great...You have no power over me.” - Sarah, Labyrinth, 1986 I have a good feeling about

“Everyday (everyday) I try and I try and I try But everybody wants to put me down They say I'm going crazy,” - Somebody To Love, Queen, 1976. We

“I am guided by a force much greater than luck.” - Lucas, Empire Records, 1995 I’d like to be in a relationship for a lot of reasons. I’d love

“Strength in numbers we can get it right.” -Janet Jackson, Rhythm Nation, 1989 The biggest difference between single women and partnered humans can

We're pretty quick to add bells and whistles to the calendar. There are the holidays that close the post office, sure, but at some point we started

“Pivot!” - Ross Geller, Friends, 1999 The Amherst Mid-Century Modern coffee table is available at Target for $161.49 plus tax. It’s 47 inches wide

“Don’t you tell me to smile.” - Beastie Boys, “Intergalactic”, 1998 People don’t talk to me. I’m not a bubbly magnet that draws everyone in

“Do you think beautiful girls are going to stay in style forever? I should say not! Any minute now they’re going to be out, finished! Then it’ll be

I love the Internet. It is my livelihood and entertainment. It has allowed me to stay connected to family and friends who live far away. It is a beautiful

Six years is 2,190 days. That's enough time for a brand-new baby to learn to walk, talk, and read. It’s enough time to go to veterinary school and get

I'm not talking about a "fashion-mergency" toolbox the size of an Altoids tin with a needle and thread and a Tide pen. If you think fashion disasters are

If you’re anything like me, you think of Valentine's Day as an illness you know you're about to catch. You know it’s coming, you avoid it like the

As Love Actually so adeptly pointed out, Christmas is a time for people with someone they love in their lives. Being single for many a holiday season has

Looky! It's real! In a #latergram posted by Jessica Alba in a post-Golden Globes haze, we see hard and fast proof that Lana Del Rey can experience

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