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If You're Single, It's Okay To Let Valentine's Day Suck

I Used To Save Things For "Someday" When I’m Married — I Don’t Anymore

What Happens When You're No One's Number One?

Relationship Advice

Things Said To Single Women That Need To Die In 2019

“For my will is as strong as yours, and my kingdom is as great...You have no power over me.” - Sarah, Labyrinth, 1986 I have a good feeling about

by Shani Silver

Online Dating After 30: The ROI Is Awful

“Everyday (everyday) I try and I try and I try But everybody wants to put me down They say I'm going crazy,” - Somebody To Love, Queen, 1976. We

by Shani Silver

"Boyfriend Rich": A Single Woman’s Fantasy

“I am guided by a force much greater than luck.” - Lucas, Empire Records, 1995 I’d like to be in a relationship for a lot of reasons. I’d love

by Shani Silver

Dear Single Women: This Holiday Season We Fight Back

“Strength in numbers we can get it right.” -Janet Jackson, Rhythm Nation, 1989 The biggest difference between single women and partnered humans can

by Shani Silver

Single’s Day Is A Totally Made Up Holiday, But I’m Buying It

We're pretty quick to add bells and whistles to the calendar. There are the holidays that close the post office, sure, but at some point we started

by Shani Silver

My Coffee Table Almost Killed Me & Other Single Girl Realities

“Pivot!” - Ross Geller, Friends, 1999 The Amherst Mid-Century Modern coffee table is available at Target for $161.49 plus tax. It’s 47 inches wide

by Shani Silver

Walking Single Face: I'm Not Angry, I'm Just Unwed & Co...

“Don’t you tell me to smile.” - Beastie Boys, “Intergalactic”, 1998 People don’t talk to me. I’m not a bubbly magnet that draws everyone in

by Shani Silver

I'm 36 & I've Been Single For 10 Years. Spoiler: I'...

“Do you think beautiful girls are going to stay in style forever? I should say not! Any minute now they’re going to be out, finished! Then it’ll be

by Shani Silver

Pinterest Vs. Real Life: The Truth Behind The Inspirational Quotes

I love the Internet. It is my livelihood and entertainment. It has allowed me to stay connected to family and friends who live far away. It is a beautiful

by Shani Silver

Sex & Relationships

2,190 Days Without “I Love You”

Six years is 2,190 days. That's enough time for a brand-new baby to learn to walk, talk, and read. It’s enough time to go to veterinary school and get

by Shani Silver

Living Alone? You Need To Read This...

I'm not talking about a "fashion-mergency" toolbox the size of an Altoids tin with a needle and thread and a Tide pen. If you think fashion disasters are

by Shani Silver

Sex & Relationships

Single On V-Day? What To Expect

If you’re anything like me, you think of Valentine's Day as an illness you know you're about to catch. You know it’s coming, you avoid it like the

by Shani Silver

10 Things That Only Happen To Singles During The Holidays

As Love Actually so adeptly pointed out, Christmas is a time for people with someone they love in their lives. Being single for many a holiday season has

by Shani Silver

Celebrity Style

Breaking: Lana Del Rey Capable Of Joy, Smiles

Looky! It's real! In a #latergram posted by Jessica Alba in a post-Golden Globes haze, we see hard and fast proof that Lana Del Rey can experience

by Shani Silver

14 Prized Fashion Possessions Revealed!

UPDATE: While you embark on fall shopping excursions, get a little inspo for what makes a lasting impression. This story was originally published on April

by Shani Silver

10 Touristy Things You'll Actually Enjoy

UPDATE: Feeling less than motivated on this lazy Sunday? Try one of these awesome activities on for size. This story was originally published on March 7.

by Shani Silver

Maternity Swimsuits For Hot Mamas

UPDATE: The summer may be winding down, but there are still plenty of beach weekends left. Mamas to be, take note — we've picked out the perfect

by Shani Silver

1 Girl, 4 Looks: Local Beauty Guru Mercedes Parra

UPDATE: In need of a little beauty inspo on this chilly afternoon? Us, too. Peek through Mercedes Parra's oh-so-stylish world. This story was originally

by Shani Silver

Good News For Kristen Stewart: Check Out Her Super-Cool On Th...

Finally, some good news from the Kristen Stewart front! Maybe the trailer for high-brow indie adaptation (though we doubt Kerouac would approve of that

by Shani Silver

Chicago
The Best Study Spots In Chicago
UPDATE: It's time to start preparing for back-to-school mode, and unfortunately for some that means jumping back on the study horse. Start testing out
by Shani Silver

Chicago
The 20 Least Fratty Bars In Chicago
UPDATE: It's Friday, which means it's time to hit the bars — but, it's hard to balance that line between good plain fun and all-out frat bash. Try one
by Shani Silver

Chicago
Meet 10 Of Chicago's Coolest Dads
UPDATE: Father's Day is long past, but the cool factor on these studly dads has only gone up, up, up. Check out their stories for a little Sunday
by Shani Silver

Chicago
16 Essentials For Any Midwestern Road Trip
UPDATE: Take advantage of these last few summer weekends, and get thee on a road trip, stat — we've got you covered with all the necessities. This story
by Shani Silver

Chicago
7 Street Style Snaps From Do Division Fest
UPDATE: Heading out to a street fair this weekend and looking for a little sartorial inspo? These festival-goers have it in spades. This story was
by Shani Silver

Chicago
Affordable Summer Beauty Finds We NEED
Between music fests, patio dining, and quick getaways, our summer shopping allowance can start to feel a little stretched. Trying to save some cash in the
by Shani Silver

Chicago
Our Favorite Street-Style Snaps From Pitchfork
Chicago is the city for summer music fests, and at the heart of them all is the biggest, best thing that happens to Union Park every year. Over the
by Shani Silver

Chicago
Meet Chicago's Coolest Baristas
UPDATE: In need of a caffeine fix? Stop by one of these spots for a visit with the coolest coffee guys and gals in town. This story was originally
by Shani Silver