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I Deleted All My Dating Apps One Year Ago

“ I just want to tell you that I’ve had enough.” NSYNC, Bye Bye Bye, 2000 One year ago this month, I deleted all of my dating apps. No fanfare, no ch

by Shani Silver

These New Year’s Resolutions Are For Single Women Only

“Okay, you’re still as hard as nails.” – Harry Burns, When Harry Met Sally, 1989 The only way to approach New Year’s resolutions is with no s

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Am I Single Because Of My Attitude?

“Now Debra, don’t be bitter, surely with your ever-growing collection of flesh mutilating silver appendages, and your brand new neo-nazi boot camp

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Relationship Advice

If You’re Single, Don’t Be Sad During The Holidays

We’re not doing this anymore. Not on my watch. This year, we won’t be sad from now until January 2 just because we’re single. Because that’s, in ol

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I’ve Been Single For So Long I’m Afraid I Don’t...

“Whatever, I’m driving.” – Katarina Stratford, 10 Things I Hate About You, 1999 Anyone who’s ever bought a power tool knows the special joy t

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Am I Single Because Of How I Look?

“You’re on my fax.” – Pretty Woman, 1990 I don’t think about my appearance much. That’s a lie, I definitely think about it, but not as it r

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Famous Single Women I Want To Be When I Grow Up

“Charlotte, we’re Jewish.” – Cher as Rachel Flax, Mermaids, 1990 The best thing about heroes is that they’re extremely personal. I don’t ha

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I Know I Won’t Be Single Forever (And Neither Will You)

“If we hate the same people and you get your suit cleaned, it’s a match.” – Barbara Streisand as Fanny Brice, Funny Lady, 1975 A year is bo

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Am I Single Because I’m Old?

“And I thought I’d live forever / But now I’m not so sureYou try to tell me that I’m clever / But that won’t take me anyhowOr any

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Is It Possible To Be “Good” At Dating?

“I might play ball. But I will never sign that.” – Randall “Pink” Floyd, Dazed and Confused, 1993 There’s a strong possibility that I

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Why Single Women Don’t Have To Be Nice About Being Single

“You burden me with your questions / You’d have me tell no lies / You’re always asking what it’s all about, / Darlin’ l

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Moving Is The Hardest Thing I’ve Done While Single

“There's somethin' wrong, we can't stay still” – Move Bitch, Ludacris, 2001 I once wrote about my rather potent desire to be boyfr

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How I Deal With Jealousy As A Single Woman

“'Cause all I really want is to be with you, feeling like I matter too.” Hey Jealousy, Gin Blossoms, 1992 I blame Instagram. It’s probably the w

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Single & Child-Free: Who’s Going To Take Care Of Me When...

“For-Ev-Er.” – The Sandlot, 1993 I have many feelings, or intuitions, if you like to call them that or live in Los Angeles. I’m pretty sure I?

by Shani Silver

A Single Girl’s Guide To Her Friends Getting Boyfriends <...

“People try to say I act a little funny, But that's just a figure of speech to me.”-TLC, “What About Your Friends,” 1992 I wish being single w

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Relationships
The Shame Of Being A Single Woman
“Sunny Day / Sweepin' the clouds away / On my way to where the air is sweet” – Sesame Street Walking home from dinner with a friend recently
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Relationships
Why I'm Done Celebrating The Accomplishments Of Couples
“What is real? How do you define real?” – Morpheus, The Matrix, 1999 I’ve had the “summer of six weddings.” The “spring of seven baby sho
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Wellness
If You’re Single, It’s Okay To Be Scared Of Solo Travel
“We are the weirdos, mister.” The Craft, 1996 So… fear. For me, fear has always been an order to retreat, to make for safer ground and stay there. It
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Relationships
How “Ifs” And “Thens” Are Hurting Single Women
“Whatever.” – Clueless, 1995 As a kid, I wanted to be psychic. I wanted a crystal ball that, apart from being perfectly in line with my decor aes
by Shani Silver

Wellness
Why I've Basically Given Up On Dating Completely
“In this life, there are nothing but possibilities.” – Lucas, Empire Records, 1995 At some point I stopped calling them dates. That term wasn’t
by Shani Silver

Relationships
Stop Telling Single Women Not To Be Angry
“Self-preservation is a full time occupation.” -Ani DiFranco, Talk To Me Now, 1990 I think a lot about supposed tos. What single women are supposed to
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Relationships
No More “You Never Knows” For Single Women
“Yo sé perder / Pero / Ay ay ay, cómo me duele.” -Selena, Como La Flor, 1992 To say I’ve been single and dating for 11 years with nothing to show f
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Relationships
I'm 36, Single & Here's The Thing: I Don't Want Kids
“You don’t always have to be who they want you to be, you know.” – Katarina Stratford, 10 Things I Hate About You, 1999 My big premise is that
by Shani Silver

Wellness
Things You Should Say To Your Single 30-Something Friend
“What it all comes down toIs that everything's gonna be fine, fine, fine'Cause I've got one hand in my pocketAnd the other one is giving a
by Shani Silver

Relationships
If You're Single, It's Okay To Let Valentine's Day Suck
Carmine: “Red roses, lovely, romantic. The guy that sends these really knows what he’s doing.” Loretta: “The guy who sends those spends a l
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Relationships
I Used To Save Things For "Someday" When I’m Married — I Don’t An...
“Life is not tried, it is merely survived / If you're standing outside the fire.” -Garth Brooks, 1993 I’ve lived a lot of my single life waiting
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Relationships
What Happens When You're No One's Number One?
“You had someone to go places with. You had a date on national holidays!” – Marie, When Harry Met Sally, 1989 For Sarah* Perspective is everythin
by Shani Silver