17 Messages That Guarantee A Response Back On Your Dating Apps

Coming up with an opening line on a dating app can sometimes be much more intimidating than coming up with one to use IRL. Sure, you can take the time to think about what you say, therefore minimizing the opportunity for full-blown humiliation. But, you're also one message in a clogged inbox on a single app on this person's phone. Who knows how many messages they get, or how many apps they're on? You've got to stand out.
Is it impossible, though? Hardly! Ahead, we've rounded up a handful of opening lines that all but guarantee a response back. Use one of these, and you'll be set apart from the crowd like the cool, unique, shining star you actually are.
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"Do you like cheese? My favorite's gouda."

Sometimes a quirky question is the best way to pique someone's interest, especially if they don't have much of a profile to go on. Bonus points if you can slip in a casual movie reference (this quote courtesy of She's The Man).
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Where do you go dancing? I always want to dance, even though I have no rhythm.

Switch out dancing with yoga, climbing, swimming, or any other activity that your potential match has said that they like to do. People love pulling other people into their passions, so asking for a recommendation is sure to get a response.
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Ok, so, your hair is stunning. Is it still so colorful?

If your match has brightly colored hair, a cool piercing, a bunch of tattoos, or some other body modification that stands out, then they clearly place value in that part of their appearance. Pointing out how cool it is and then asking a question is a surefire way to stand out from all the people who simply drop a "hey you."
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I'm also an awkward nerd who watches too much TV!

It doesn't matter if you're not actually a nerd, or don't watch all that much TV. Use this as a template and put in your own adjectives like "outgoing nature-lover who goes on too many hikes." The point is, you're showing the person that you read their profile and found that the two of you actually have something in common to talk about.
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Are you reading anything interesting lately?

Because book worms love to talk about their favorite stories.
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PLEASE tell me that dog is yours. He's so cute!

Let's be honest here — our pets can sometimes feel like our children. So, if you're an animal lover, and you notice the person you just swiped right on is posing for a photo with a dog or a cat, ask them about it!
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I'm planning a trip to Spain this spring — where was the best place you visited?

People love to post a travel photo in their profiles. Luckily, it offers an easy in for conversation and shows that you guys have something in common.
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You have a great smile!

Who doesn't like a compliment? Something specific, like a person's eyes or smile, is better than just the overall courtesy of "You're gorgeous," which can be a little cheesy.
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I've got to know — are you someone who claps when the plane lands?

A little humor never hurt anyone...
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Quick: What is your go-to pizza topping?

A quick and easy question is a great way to get a conversation starting. Plus, you can tell a lot about a person based on what they order on their pizza. Especially if it's pineapple.
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What was your favorite Saturday morning cartoon growing up?

Nostalgia is one of the easiest things in the world to connect to, and people are always eager to respond to questions that make them remember their childhoods.
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I see you're into traveling! If you won an all-expense paid trip to anywhere in the world, where would it be?

By pointing out something in their profile, you show the person you're messaging that you actually took the time to read it instead of just blindly swiping on their photos.
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I'm happy you swiped right! I wanted to ask you about...

Don't be afraid to show your excitement to your match! It's flattering to hear that, out of a sea of faces, they're the person you're stoked to talk to.
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You seem like someone who'd know where to get the best taco around here...

If they list something in their profile that they love — like tacos — then ask them about it! Bonus: You've automatically set up a seamless date. ("Well, we should go grab some tacos there sometime.")
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Have you tried making a frittata in your cast iron skillet? That's my favorite way to use mine.

Offering up a suggestion relating to something in their profiles and photos gives proof that you guys share similar interests.
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Two truths and a lie. Ready, set, go!

This one is perfect for profiles that don't have a lot for you to go off of.
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Describe yourself in 3 emoji.

When words fail, a few choice emoji can tell you a lot about a person.
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I think you're cute. You think I'm cute. Why don't we grab a drink this week?

Sometimes, the best way to get a message back is to be direct.
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