“People might think, ‘I don’t know what to say’ or ‘I’m not creative,’ but you don’t have to dive in with all these kinky, dirty things,” Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, previously told Refinery29. “Find a specific language you feel comfortable with… If you’re not comfortable with being too explicit from the get-go, that’s okay — just start slow.” (Also worth mentioning: Only kick off a sexy exchange with someone you know is receptive.)
To help you get your creative juices flowing, we came up with some examples of flirty lines that are sure to elicit a positive response. Pick one — or several — that feels the truest to your communication style, and get the ball rolling.
I’m bored. What would you do to me if you were here?
Play a guessing game
Guess what I’m not wearing right now?
Do you want to come over and... wash our hands together?
Use an emoji
*Eggplant*, *eggplant*, *eggplant*.
Ask for a favor
I’m freezing right now — I wish you were here so you could warm me up.
Use a pop culture reference
Make psychoanalyzing hot
What are you thinking about right now? Because I can’t stop thinking about last night.
Get to the point
What do you say we skip dinner tonight and you can eat me instead?
Make an entrance
Glad I could get your number last night. Maybe I’ll use it to invite you over later.