Is The G-Spot A Big Lie? 3 Experts Weigh In

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Ever heard of the G-spot? You can thank German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg for our knowledge of the "erotic zone" that's theoretically an orgasmic wonderland for anyone who has a vagina (as long as it's touched in the right way). In 1950, Gräfenberg published a report in a little-known sexual research journal claiming that he found a spot guaranteed to make women orgasm. Gräfenberg's report went mostly ignored until 1982, when a new scientist, Alice Ladas, rediscovered his research, named the erotic zone he described the "G-spot," and then wrote about it in her book, The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
Ever since, the existence of the G-spot has been controversial. Some sex researchers and educators swear by its existence. Some swear it's a myth. And there's science backing up both sides. In 2012, a study in The Journal Of Sexual Medicine claimed to prove that the G-spot exists and detailed exactly where to find it, down to the millimeter. The same year, a group of researchers reviewed all of the G-spot studies done from 1950 to 2011 and determined that the evidence was insufficient — there was just no clear proof that such an "erotic zone" exists.
Yet, many sex educators believe wholeheartedly in the G-spot, so much so that they can tell you exactly how to find it and what to do to it for maximum sexual pleasure (hint: you want to curl your finger and make a "come hither" motion). So we spoke with some of these sex educators, as well as some sexperts who aren't 100% sure that the G-spot, as we define it now, actually exists.
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There is NOT a separate organ that is the G spot.

Jessa Zimmerman, an AASECT certified sex therapist and couples' counselor in Seattle

"There is NOT a separate organ that is the G-spot, but there is an area that is sensitive inside the vagina. This sensitive area is a complex of tissue, including the female prostate, the urethral sponge, and the legs of the clitoris. While it is a sensitive area on women, that does not mean that everyone finds it pleasurable or arousing. Women vary considerably in their experience of stimulation of this area.

"If you want to find it, extend fingers or toy inside the vagina and try to rub or stimulate the anterior wall of the vagina, about an inch and a half inside, on the top wall, toward the stomach. Be on the lookout for part of the vaginal wall that is more sensitive than the rest. Some women find it pleasurable, and even orgasmic, to be stimulated here. Plenty of other women don’t. There is no right way to find pleasure and no best way to orgasm. Whatever works for you is perfect."
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I think it may be possible that not all women have one.

Barbara Gold, an AASECT certified sex therapist and marriage counselor in Dallas.

"As far as the G-spot, I definitely believe it exists. I think it may be possible that not all women have one, or alternatively, some are unable to find it. Although I'm no researcher, I've spoken about it to enough women (and I am one, as well) to say with certainty that it does exist, at least for some."
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It's an anatomical area of the body that every woman has.

Sadie Allison, PhD, founder of sextoy boutique and author of Tickle Your Fancy–A Woman's Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure

"Yes, the urethral sponge aka 'G-spot' exists. It's an anatomical area of the body that every woman has, and that serves a biological purpose. It's a small, rigid, oval-ish area of the spongy tissue that surrounds the urethral cord. During excitement and intercourse, it swells with blood to cushion the urethral cord, protecting the woman's delicate urinary passageway from her lover's pleasure-pounding. Just like our eyelids are there to protect our eyes, the urethral sponge is there to protect the urethral cord during intercourse. And as it turns out, when stimulated, it can provide great pleasure from some women. So yes, the urethral sponge exists, and can double as an erogenous zone.

"The G-spot is stimulated from inside the vagina on the upper wall, about 2-4 inches up. You can use a finger or two, or a curved tip G-spot toy. You'll want to curve your fingertips upward, toward the belly button, to find it. This is the 'come hither' finger position. When you feel a ridigy-surfaced bulb (like the outside of a walnut), you've found it! Tip: it's much easier to locate the G-spot after your body has been warmed up and aroused so there's blood flow and some engorgement of the tissue."

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