Polling a potential sexual partner on their "favorites" is a classic way to break the ice on a first date. What's your favorite color? Favorite TV show? Favorite drink? But figuring out deeper facets of their preferences, like their favorite sex positions, can take some time to get to. The thing is, when you compare the sex positions portrayed in porn and movies to the sex positions people do in real life, they don't always measure up.
Case in point: reverse cowgirl is often showed in porn, simply because it looks good on camera. But research suggests that only 7.7% of Americans fantasize about that position, according to data published in Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a sex researcher. A person's favorite sex position obviously depends on many factors, such as their anatomy and emotions. And, obviously, there's not one "right way" to have sex.