I think it's safe to assume that Dr. Jay is speaking to a fairly niche segment of American twenty-somethings. You have to have a certain amount of privilege, both monetary and educational — whether you were born into it or you earned it, though I imagine many of her patients belong to the former subset — to find yourself among her clientele. Thinking incessantly about your life, your identity, and your future, and going to therapy to talk about it even more, are luxuries. I count myself among that group, and I think that looking at my own life and the lives of my friends, there's no shortage of pressure to get your life together before the day you graduate college. I'm sure there are plenty of people, like the women Jay mentions in her talk, who embody the "I'll deal with it later" attitude she's talking about, and it's no good to shift an entire decade worth of pressures and goals to your 30s. But, I personally feel like I have the opposite problem. My family's high expectations, as well as the media's, have taught me that I need to "have it all," as much as I hate that phrase. I want to have tons of friends (hey, guys); an awesome, fulfilling, creative job (check); experiences with many different boyfriends (not so much); and a thoughtful inner-life where I write poetry and learn how to play the piano (I can't even keep up a diary). But with all the time I spend worrying about it all, I feel like I'll never be satisfied with any of it, at least not all at once.