15 Gifts To Give Your Partner If You’re In A New Relationship

Gift shopping for your partner (even if you're in a long-term relationship) can be a source of stress around the holidays. And if you're newly dating? Well, it can sometimes even be tricky to know if gift-exchanging of any kind is actually on the table.

However, we're here to help ease any holiday shopping jitters — which is exactly why we tapped some dating and relationship experts to share their best tips for finding a great gift for your partner. (Even the R29 shopping experts learned a thing or two from their wise words of wisdom!)


"When I am looking for a gift for anyone, my guiding force is, 'Would I want this myself?'” says Liz Goldwyn, author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed. "If you are coveting something you get for another person, then you are on the right track!" Additionally, another thing that will help you retain a sense of calm about gifting a new partner? Don't put so much pressure on yourself as the gift-er: "I think that the worst thing you could do is try to give this person the best gift they’ve ever received in their life," TENGA ambassador and sex and relationship expert Shan Boodram tells Refinery29. "I think that this [gesture] is really about laying the foundation to say that, 'I know you, I’m getting to know you, and I'm looking forward to what next year has in store.'" With that in mind, the 15 gifts here are a great place to start for any new couple.

At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

Mistletoe Tortoise Holiday Card

"As much as possible, in the early stages of a relationship, you want to build a shared sense of intimacy," Boodram explains. "I love cards that have a little more thought into them; you can try a coded message, or, go back to an experience that you [both] cherish, and remind the person of a special moment that you’re still holding onto."
NicAllanShop Mistletoe Tortoise Christmas Cards$5.47 Buy

Chemex Pour-Over Glass Coffee Maker with Wood Collar

If your partner is a budding coffee connoisseur, then upgrade their Mr. Coffee drip machine with a luxe Chemex pour-over maker to transform lazy Sunday mornings into a moment for caffeinated bliss.
Chemex Pour-Over Glass Coffee Maker with Wood Collar$45.95 Buy

Portal From Facebook

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The perfect gift to stay connected with your new boo — no matter how far apart you are.
Facebook Portal From Facebook$179.00 Buy

La Colombe Workshop Sampler Gift Box

Add a sampler kit of whole bean coffees from around the world as a perfect stocking stuffer, or pairing to the aforementioned coffee maker.
La Colombe Workshop Sampler Gift Box$30.00 Buy

Keanu Reeves Reversible Sequin Pillowcase

A great gift doesn't necessarily have to be overly serious, and according to Boodram, you can't go wrong with a present that hints at an inside joke you share with your partner. This iconic magic sequin pillow is guaranteed to make its recipient smile — and since we know you were wondering: Yes, it comes in Danny DeVito and Nicholas Cage versions, too.
Merrycolor Keanu Reeves Reversible Sequin Pillowcase$10.99 Buy

Moleskine Large Red Hard Cover Ruled Journal

If your partner is constantly making lists or jotting down thoughts before bed, then a classic notebook is a gift that won't go to waste. (And if you're feeling extra romantic, feel free to write a sweet note on the first page before giving it.)
Moleskine Large Red Hard Cover Ruled Journal$20.95 Buy

Powerbeats3 Wireless Earphones - Beats Pop Collection

Whether you listen to podcasts nonstop at your desk, or love to sweat it out at the gym to the Spotify Fuego playlist, a slick new pair of headphones make for a gift that your partner will love — and think of you every time they use it.
Beats by Dr. Dre Powerbeats3 Wireless Earphones - Beats Pop Collection$119.00 $99.00 Buy

Birchbox Best Sellers Box + 3-Month Subscription Card

"I think in an age where anybody can buy something for themselves [instantly], sometimes [a great gift is] getting something that someone wouldn’t necessarily have thought of for themselves," Boodram says, adding that subscriptions can make for a thoughtful gift that keeps on giving. "Try and think about who that person follows on Instagram. [An early relationship gift] should say, 'This person pays attention, or has an interest in things I’m interested in.'"
Birchbox Best Sellers Box + 3-Month Subscription Card$50.00 Buy

Fujifilm Mini Instax Acrylic Block Frame

Since everyone is still passing around the mini Instax cameras at birthday parties and Friendsgivings galore, find a cute spot for your favorite couple photo by gifting your partner a mini clear frame to keep at their desk or apartment.
Fujifilm Mini Instax Acrylic Block Frame$6.00 Buy

Tame Impala - The Slow Rush Limited LP

'Tis the season to add to their sizable vinyl collection. Even if they already have a Spotify Premium, they'll appreciate you remembering their favorite band — and hopefully will take it as a chance to host a party-of-two listening party, too.
Tame Impala The Slow Rush Limited LP$39.98 Buy

Little Weirds by Jenny Slate

If you loved cuddling together on the couch while watching Jenny Slate's Netflix special, then your partner will love this thoughtful tome. "If you in a very new relationship, a favorite book is a safe bet — as John Waters said, 'if you go home with someone and they don’t have books, don’t fuck em!' Goldwyn recommends. "Giving someone a book you really love is also a great way for them to get to know you." (Don't know where to start? The Sex Ed has a whole section dedicated to giftable reads.)
Jenny Slate Little Weirds$27.00 $16.69 Buy

Everlane The Cashmere Rib Beanie

Treat your boyfriend to a super-soft beanie (because let's be honest, he probably never will) that is bound to become his new favorite cold-weather accessory.
Everlane The Cashmere Rib Beanie$65.00 Buy


"It’s also great to gift something you can do together, as experiences create bonding and intimacy," Goldwyn says, adding that "depending on the level of intimacy and sexual exploration in a new relationship" a couples sex toy can be a hot gift item. "We-Vibe has some fun vibrators with a remote control." (P.S. Shop this popular remote-control version for 50% off.)
We-Vibe UNITE$129.00 $64.50 Buy

Paul Smith Stripe Socks

Since stylish socks are now a totally acceptable gift item, treat your partner to a chic designer pair as an extra-special treat.
Paul Smith Stripe Socks$30.00 Buy

Sonix Day Dream, iPhone 11 Pro Max / (XS Max)

A cute new phone case is always an easy gifting win, because your phone needs as many outfits as you do.
Sonix Day Dream, iPhone 11 Pro Max / (XS Max)$35.00 $21.00 Buy
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