Use Sex Toys During Foreplay To Make Sex Even Better

Sex toys can certainly make it a lot easier to reach orgasm during sex or while masturbating. But don't sleep on your favorite vibe's ability to ramp up the pleasure and anticipation during foreplay, as well. That's right, foreplay is a great time to break out sex toys.

In my opinion, foreplay is seriously underrated — and there's evidence that I'm not alone in that thinking. One 2004 study of 152 cis straight couples found that both men and women wanted about twice as much foreplay as they were actually getting, and a 2017 study found that both straight and queer cis women were more likely to orgasm if the encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and oral sex. (That said, manual stimulation and oral sex can be seen as either sex or foreplay, depending on how that particular encounter plays out.)


Most sex toys that are used during sex can also be used during foreplay. It’s all about how you use them. Think: lower settings, lighter touches, and covering many erogenous zones instead of focusing on just one. You might, for example, run your favorite bullet vibe over your nipples during foreplay, then turn it to its highest setting and hold it against your clit during sex.

There are some foreplay-specific sex toys out there, too, such as feathery ticklers, sensual massage candles, and floggers for impact play

If you're interesting in incorporating sex toys into foreplay, here are some suggestions to get you started.

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This flying saucer-shaped sex toy vibrates more strongly as you squeeze it tighter, making it easy for you to add variety — perfect for teasing. Find an intensity you want to stay on? Simply put it in Lock Mode to keep it consistent.

Unbound Saucy$69.00 Buy


This cute toy has dual uses: You can spank your partner with the paddle side, or tickle and tease them with the silicone tassels.  
Unbound Tsk$24.00 Buy


Want to explore a new kink? Tango’s KinkKits offer kits designed to help you do just that — for example, “Restraint” includes Shibari rope, bondage tape, and a “sensory smorgasbord” of sensation toys. 
Tango Restraint$94.95 Buy


Place Dame’s Fin vibe on your finger, turn it on, and start caressing your partner anywhere you like. 
Dame Shop All$85.00 Buy

Le Wand Bullet Vibe

Bullet vibes are super-versatile — they can be used on the clit and vulva, on the shaft and head of the penis, on the nipples, and pretty much anywhere else on the outside of the body you can think of.
Le Wand Le Wand Bullet$85.00 Buy

Entice Tiered Nipple Clamps

These rose gold nipple clamps are so pretty that you might be tempted to wear them all the time.
Cal Exotics Entice Tiered Intimate Rose Gold Nipple Clamps$19.99 Buy


Wearable vibes like the Moxie are perfect for teasing. You attach it to your panties, and hand your partner the remote. 

We-Vibe Moxie with Remote$159.00 Buy

Novice Plug

Planning on anal sex? Butt plugs stimulate the nerve endings in the anal area — try wearing one during foreplay to help prepare for penetration (or just because it feels good).

B-Vibe novice plug$130.00 Buy

Burn No. 1 Massage Candle

This jojoba oil-based candle smells amazing. As it melts, you can use the oil on your partner’s skin for a sexy massage.

Maude burn no. 1$25.00 Buy
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