I need to know the name of this song!
Why it works: Expressing interest in their music gives you an easy topic to discuss right off the bat. Bonus points if they actually happen to have good taste in music.
Roses are red. Violets are blue. Here is a DM slide, to say hi to you.
Why it works: This poetic approach to a text shows that you're clever, and also cuts through the BS that surrounds Valentine's Day.
Hey! If you want to chat sometime, here's my number.
Why it works: Often people who you've matched with on a dating app will follow you on Instagram to initiate a conversation, which can be flattering or annoying. This line cuts right to the chase and kindly calls them out on their not-so-subtle move.
I noticed we have tons of followers in common. How have we never met?
Why it works: Knowing that you have friends in common will lessen any potential weirdness about a stranger messaging them. Plus, chances are you can get the scoop on them from your mutual friends.
If you're still out later, we should meet up!
Why it works: It's almost a booty call (because it implies you'd like to get together later), but it's a little more tactful.
Do you go here often? I need a new coffee place.
Why it works: This is like the modern-day version of the classic pick-up line, "Do you come here often?"
So pretty! 😻
Why it works: Pad a very sincere compliment with a cat emoji, and you've got a perfectly flirty text.
Am I crazy, or have we matched on an app before?
Why it works: If you're not a fan of dating apps, you might be more comfortable using Instagram to communicate with a love interest. Some people might call this Tindstagramming, but mentioning that you recall someone from a dating app acknowledges that there's a chance that you're both still single, which might get rid of the potential awkwardness of a cold DM slide.
You're in my neighborhood!👋
Why it works: Who knows? Maybe they'll reply right away and ask you to join them. If not, they'll think of you whenever they're back in the area.
Hey! I had a great time talking to you last night, and I wanted to see if I could grab your number?
Why it works: It's way easier to ask for someone's phone number through a DM slide than it is to ask in person. This way, you can do some light stalking before you ask, and they aren't put on the spot and forced to answer you ASAP.
I feel like you’ve tried every workout class in the city. I want to try rowing, but I’m nervous! Where should I go?
Why it works: Being honest and telling someone that you’re nervous is a way better move than lying and pretending you know a ton about working out. Best case scenario, this person wants to come with you to your first rowing class. Worst case, you get to give them the download about the class afterwards.
This looks heavenly. I’ve been meaning to try their drinks, were they any good?
Why it works: It’s a straightforward hint that you would like to go back there and try their drinks… with them.
Is this your puppy?! If not, did you steal it?!
Why it works: Everyone loves puppies, photos of puppies, and talking about photos of puppies. From there, you can pivot to sharing some of your favorite puppy Instagram accounts, or perhaps planning a trip to visit their puppy IRL.
I was at this show, too! Were you able to get close to the stage?
Why it works: It’s not creepy to tell someone you were at the same concert as them, especially if they posted a photo and tagged the location. You might have the same niche taste in music, and can plan your next concert trip together. If you weren't at that show, you can talk about another time you saw that band, or how you've been dying to see them live.
Dying to know your perfect winged-eyeliner secrets.
Why it works: It’s not as direct as, "You are so pretty," but it still gets across the message that you admire the way they look — and want to keep talking about that.
So good! Did you get to see the original cast?
Why it works: This question is also a compliment that shows that you share their interest, and perhaps might have a little more insider knowledge about theater than they do, which they will appreciate. It’s also a better question to start a conversation than just asking, "Was it good?"
LOL 😂 you always find the best memes!
Why it works: People like hearing that they’re funny. After you send this, they’ll start thinking about you and your equally sharp sense of humor.