Don't think of your experience as 'baggage.'
Create a split screen in your mind.
Figure out if they're worth trusting.
Look at your partner objectively.
And look at yourself, too: Are there biases that you carry with you from past experiences that you need to examine, so you can be sure you're giving them a fair shake? You might not have all the answers right now, but these prompts may help you step aside and think logically about your new relationship.
Communicate in respectful ways.
Learn to trust yourself.
But going forward, if you have these doubts, it might be helpful to figure out how your new partner can make you feel safe, Brown says. That might require some difficult conversations with your new partner, to make sure that you're both "willing to explore those things and reciprocate safety for each other," she says.
Expect bad feelings.
Talk about your expectations.
Go to therapy.
Understand the risks.