I Used To Be A 'Spoiled Girlfriend'— & This Is What I Look For In My Dates

In our past interviews with sugar babies, we've talked with women who demanded a gift on the first date, men who had their rent paid by their dates, and former sugar babies weaning off a shopping addiction. But while getting paid to date might sound glamorous — and certainly, some of the anecdotes seem to support that — the reality is often a different story.
Today, we chat with a 24-year-old former sugar baby who breaks down the different types of sugar babies and talks about what it's like to date men her own age again.
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How did you start sugar baby dating?
“I started sugar babying after going through a breakup. I met my ex when I was 18, and we went to the same college. Then I went home when I was done with school, and it wasn’t the same. One of my biggest issues with him was that I would pay for everything that we did. I would pay to go see him, and he wouldn’t come see me. After a while, I got resentful about it, especially if he was going out and doing things with his friends. It was like, Why isn’t he trying? He was probably making more money than I was at the time. So there was a lot of drama and accusations, and we were both miserable, and finally he was like, I cannot do this anymore with you.
"The break up hit me really hard. I remember I was reading an article online about sugar daddies, and I googled "Sugar Daddies," and a random site came up. I just thought I could have a different experience of a man spoiling me.
"When I started I was so naive. I thought sugar daddies were like Brad Pitt or Anderson Cooper — they would be older, but handsome and wealthy. That’s not what you find. I had been on the site for a few days and talking with this guy, and I was shocked when he sent me a photo. I told him I wasn’t interested, and then he got angry. He cursed me out, saying a lot of racial slurs. So I got scared and deleted my profile.”

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