If you're anything like me, nothing compounds your anxiety quite like a new Hallmark holiday rising over the horizon. No matter what your relationship status is, Valentine's Day can be a fraught mess of emotions and expectations. That's why I enjoy sitting out of this one and reclaiming it as a "me-day."
Valentine's Day is supposed to be about showing love to the one you love, and we think that should absolutely include self-love, too. So, if you've been nervously wondering how you're going to make it through the next few teddy bear- and chocolate-filled weeks unscathed, take a deep breath and relax: We're here to help you plan the most relaxing, anxiety-free Valentine's Day with a variety of self-care gifts for every budget.
We understand that the act of self-care varies from person to person. For my mom, it looks like a glass of wine or an expensive piece of chocolate. For my sister, it's splurging on a new workout outfit for her morning boot camp. For me, it's a long bubble bath and some time spent with a sex toy. Maybe you're more of a morning meditation person. Or you'd rather curate a skin-care routine or indulge in a new trendy piece of jewelry. Whatever your self-care looks like, we hope we can at least get rid of your Valentine's Day stress. Give your brain and body some extra TLC, and keep scrolling to shop the 26 best self-care gift ideas for the best, most relaxing solo Valentine's Day of your life. Because nobody knows how to best love you...more than you!
Self-Care Gifts Under $30
If you're one of those voracious minds who misses school because you just want to learn as much as you can, stimulate your brain with any of the informative classes available at MasterClass. Just within its wellness category, you can find courses that range from how to be your most authentic self to yoga and fitness fundamentals from some of the best pros out there.
Your at-home spa night won't be complete without these under-eye cooling patches that de-puff and brighten your skin in only 20 minutes.
This TikTok viral perfume broke the internet with its apparent ability to evoke the smell of whoever your heart is missing. If you need an extra boost of comfort that feels like a warm hug from a loved one (particularly if you find yourself in a long-distance relationship this V-Day), this is the scent for you.
Sink your teeth into this delectable treat from the world-famous Levain Bakery. Its cookie assortment is filled with not only its renowned chocolate chip, but also dark chocolate, peanut butter, and oatmeal. A perfect splurge for any sweet tooth.
This candle melts into a smooth massage oil that feels like pure luxury against your skin. Available in two scents (or unscented for the particularly affected), it sinks in quickly, never feeling greasy or sticky, just giving you pure relaxation. For an extra-spicy night, finish your self-massage with Maude's chic (and back-in-stock) three-speed Vibe.
Self-Care Gifts Under $50
Feeling femme? We hear you. Just slide into this silky smooth PJ set adorned with leopard print and queue up Legally Blonde on Netflix for a perfect V-Day treat.
I was gifted this insulated Yeti mug a few years ago, and it completely changed my morning routine. Now I don't have to rush to drink my coffee as quickly as possible — I can take my sweet, sweet time. The mug keeps my coffee temperature regulated, so I can savor each delicious sip at its perfect temperature. This version has a tapered base, so you can treat yourself on the go, too.
Nothing says R&R quite like cozying up in front of a crackling fire. But in case you're not willing to commit to buying a whole-ass fireplace (although there are options for that!), this firewood-scented candle from Votivo is a great choice. With up to 75 hours of burn time, it'll last longer than a real fire, too.
With so much external life stress, it can be hard to feel like getting in some sexual pleasure. If you need help getting into the mood, don't worry. Formulated to boost your mood and regulate hormones that are related to depression and burnout, these delicious-tasting gummies from wellness brand Dame can help lower your stress levels while increasing desire. Count us in!
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I'm a firm believer that the best self-care gift for anyone is the gift of pleasure. This three-speed massager from Maude is perfectly petite enough to fit into the palm of your hand to get into all the nooks and crannies you feel like exploring. It's also waterproof, so you can both come in the bath. Your vagina will thank you.
Self-Care Gifts Under $100
Nothing sets a relaxing scene quite like a fresh bouquet of flowers. Curate the perfect calm mood in your home with a bouquet from The Sill, which you can have delivered right to your door.
Full-body relaxation is easily yours with furry socks, a scrunchie, and a sleep mask.
Who says you can't gift yourself a fancy box of chocolates this Valentine's Day? If nothing satisfies your sweet tooth like a decadent piece of chocolate, we highly recommend grabbing this luxury box of truffles from Vosges, filled with an array of aromatic dark chocolate seasoned with exotic spices and flavors to die for.
Self-care can't always be bubble baths and massages. Sometimes it's going to yoga, running, taking a dance class, or lifting weights at the gym. Nothing makes exercising a little more fun than a pair of new leggings, and these buttery-soft best-sellers from Lululemon feel like a hug for your thighs.
This OG "personal massager" has a long reputation of delivering pleasure to even the most hard to please. If you're a person who needs some extra oomph, try out the Magic Wand. It has all the power you could possibly want, but the new cordless mini version is easier to hold and maneuver exactly where you want it. Be warned: Pleasure might be stronger than you're used to.
Self-Care Gifts Under $150
Did you know that a weighted blanket can lead to better sleep and actually help improve your mental health? The deep pressure puts your body into "rest mode" — which is why we're obsessed with this ultra-luxurious weighted throw blanket from Brooklinen. Not only does it block out light and feel smooth against skin, but it helps us wake up more rested.
Your beauty routine deserves an upgrade. Why not dip your toe into luxury skin care with this kit of best-selling minis from cult fave Hanacure. With over 11k five-star reviews espousing its magical benefits and instantly more-touchable, glowier complexion, you know it lives up to its hype.
A super-cozy robe? Yes please. Made from Turkish cotton, Parachute's best-selling robe comes in nine stylish colors and makes us feel like we're being swaddled with self-care.
Self-Care Gifts Under $200
Open up your heart chakra with these rose quartz earrings from Monica Vinader. The semiprecious stone supposedly promotes feelings of self-love, all while adding a totally glam element to any outfit. Talk about multi-tasking!
Work out even the tensest knots and muscles with this compact Theragun. It's ultra-portable, has a run time of over two hours, and has a nearly perfect five-star rating. Oh, and did we mention it's on sale right now? Daily massages have never been more possible.
Did you know that orgasms can help reduce your cortisol levels to actively lower stress? And did you know that most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm? Chill out and increase your relaxation with a clit-specific vibe, like the newest from luxury sex tech brand Lelo. The Dot offers pinpoint and broader stimulation, depending on what you like, and guarantees that it'll get you there.
We know that bedding doesn't really scream "exciting" when it comes to self-care, but hear us out. Better sleep means less stress, and we promise a new level of comfort when you slide between Ettitude's signature sateen sheets. Made from 100% bamboo, these sheets aren't just sustainable; they're also breathable and totally worth their price tag. Don't just take our word for it, though: This set has over 5,000 reviews and a 4.6-star rating.
Self-Care Gifts Over $200 Worth The Splurge
Is there anything more luxurious than sitting around in your finest silks? How about getting a silk lounge set that you don't have to take to the dry cleaners? That's right, this uber-soft duo is totally washable and looks just as good sitting on the couch as it does while you're out and about town.
Bring the sauna to you with Higherdose's flagship heated blanket. It is a mental and physical wellness essential for winter, according to the R29 shopping team's two superfans. "I had been going to the Higherdose SoHo location five or so times and realized immediately I loved how I felt both during and after my sessions, but couldn't justify shelling out $65 per session," Samantha Baker, our VP of Commerce and Partnership says. "Then I saw that they released an at-home blanket version and figured even though the price tag is high, it would quickly pay for itself after 10 at-home sessions. I'm so glad I made the leap, as I've been using it two times a week for the past two years and can absolutely tell a difference in my energy and mood post-use."
After an extensive workout, muscle recovery is a necessary self-care step. If your solo V-Day entails a rigorous workout (which, you do you, boo), this is a real treat. Make it as easy as sitting back, relaxing, and letting these pre-set massage booties do all the work.
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