How To Have Morning Sex Like In A Star Is Born

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In the new movie, A Star Is Born, you'd expect for there to be a lot of sex, drugs, and rock n' roll — and there is a lot of latter two. But in terms of sex, the relationship between Jackson Maine (played by Bradley Cooper) and Ally (played by Lady Gaga) is pretty tame. In fact, the first time that they hook up, they have morning sex, and it's quite romantic.
But not every morning sex scenario begins so sweetly, because "not everyone wakes up ready to bone," says Myisha Battle, a certified sex coach in San Francisco. While it might seem like you can just roll over and start hooking up, consent is crucial for ensuring that everyone has a good time during morning sex, she says.
Now, how do you initiate steamy morning sex when you know there's a good chance your partner might still be sleepy, groggy, and ready to press snooze? Here are a few ideas that will help you communicate to your partner that you're DTF when it's early in the AM — without, you know, just poking them in the back until they wake up.
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Suggest "round two."

If you and your partner had sex the night before, you might allude to morning sex by asking for a "round two," Battle says. You could suggest revisiting some of the things that your partner did that you liked, or vice versa, she says. But keep in mind that your partner might still be sore or worn out from the first round, so perhaps you'll want to stick to some lazier positions instead.
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Ask if they're ready for "breakfast."

First thing in the morning, your mind might not be primed and ready with dirty talk ideas. One easy prompt from Battle? "I recently had the experience of a partner asking me in the morning if I was 'ready for breakfast,' and then suggesting some body parts of theirs for my consumption," she says. "It was a pretty hot proposition, so I said yes, and we both had a great time!"
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Don't stress your appearance.

You know that scene in Bridesmaids where Annie (played by Kristen Wiig) fully gets ready before pretending to "wake up" to have morning sex with Ted (played by Jon Hamm)? That's so not necessary, and some people might actually enjoy the fact that things are less-than-perfect in the morning. "Remember that your partner will also be in a similar state and you still want to have sex with them, right?" Battle says.
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Consider solo play.

If you tend to want to have morning sex, but your partner doesn't, you may want to consider other ways to get your needs met, like masturbation — either solo or with your partner watching, Battle says. "Again, consent is important if you want to get off with a partner present. Who knows, they may like it enough to join in sometimes."
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Acknowledge your partner's schedule.

Obviously time is one big barrier to having morning sex, especially during the weekday. If your partner seems stressed about getting to work or school on time, you could suggest having a quickie. A quickie doesn't have to end in an orgasm, but it can be an outlet to get out your morning horniness.

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