The Secret Body Language Of Hollywood's Longest-Lasting Couples

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It seems like every week another A-list Hollywood couple releases a joint statement about an impeding divorce or separation. Long-lasting couples are becoming harder and harder to find in Tinseltown — especially when both partners are famous. In the words of Carrie Bradshaw, "I couldn't help but wonder" what makes certain couples go the distance while others fizzle in the L.A. sun? And for those who do make it, what's their magic secret?
Enter body language expert Blanca Cobb, who revealed that the big secret is no secret at all. "Friendship is really important, it has to be more than physical [in a relationship] because that will wear off," Cobb said during a phone call with Refinery29. "If you have friendship, enjoy each other's company, you can laugh and you can joke, [then] you're in it for the long haul. When you have that, it makes the bumps in the road not to bumpy and not as hard."
But the rules for the rest of us laycouples are not the same as for Hollywood powerhouses like Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham or Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka. Celebrities, depending on what they do, are often traveling and shooting for long periods of time. Are there dangers lurking with that added pressure?
"You have so much opportunity [to cheat]," Cobb explained, adding that transparency and limiting those opportunities are the key to making a relationship work in Hollywood. "When you find other ways to occupy your time, well, guess what? You're not putting enough time into your own relationship, and that could be a problem."
Cobb ended with some sound advice we should all heed in our relationships, famous or not: "Love is an action and love is a choice," and when you make a commitment to your partner, you must make that choice to love over and over again.
Read ahead for some insights from Cobb about our absolute favorite long-lasting couples who look as in-love today as they did when they first connected. And who prove, time and time again, that they are in it for good.
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Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell (Together For 35 Years)

"Kurt is relishing in Goldie’s attention. He can’t hide his happiness. Goldie’s body is screaming that she’s completely into her man. Not only by the way she’s looking at him, but also the way her body is completely angled towards and flushed against his. That’s hot!"
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Oprah Winfrey & Stedman Graham (Together For 32 Years)

"Stedman can’t make it any clearer that he’s Oprah’s man. Look at the way he’s standing slightly behind her and the way he has his hands around her as though he’s enveloping her. "
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Tom Hanks & Rita Wilson (Together For 30 Years)

"With her hands around Tom’s waist, Rita is silently saying, 'I’m not gonna let you go.'"
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Sarah Jessica Parker & Matthew Broderick (Together For 21 Years)

"Matthew bends down a bit awkwardly to get closer to Sarah Jessica’s touch. And with his left hand on her hip, he’s letting her know that he’s enjoying her touches."
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Jada Pinkett Smith & Will Smith (Together For 21 Years)

"Oo-la-la — the sensual look Will gives Jada says that he’s feeling all kinds of hot. With his hand on her hip as he’s bringing her close to his body there’s no mistaking how he feels. And you can clearly see that Jada’s feeling it, too. #relationshipgoals"
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Angela Bassett & Courtney B. Vance (Together For 21 Years)

"Even in a posed photo, Courtney finds a way to let Angela know that she’s on his mind. He leans closer to maintain their connection."
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Beyoncé & Jay-Z (Together For 17 Years)

"Beyoncé is all smiles as Jay-Z places a kiss on her hand. What a romantic way to show his affection!"
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Neil Patrick Harris & David Burkta (Together For 14 Years)

"The longer a couple is together, the more similar their body language becomes. Neil Patrick and Davis’ body language are mirror images of each other. From the position of their arms to the similar hand grip."
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Ellen DeGeneres & Portia de Rossi (Together For 14 Years)

"From the way their heads are touching to the way their hands are similarly crossed, Ellen and Portia are showing their loving connection. With Portia slightly behind Ellen, she is giving her wife her support both figuratively and literally."
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John Legend & Chrissy Teigen (Together For 11 Years)

"You get a sense of the strength of a marriage when couples continually enjoy each other. There’s no question that John’s enjoying his wife’s playful side when she places her head on his shoulder. Bending himself awkwardly to make sure that she can rest her head on him shows that he relishes her closeness."
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Emily Blunt & John Krasinski (Together For 10 Years)

"Nothing screams mine (and comfort) more than snuggling on your man’s lap. And by the look of John’s face, he’s quite happy about it."
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Randall Park & Jae Suh Park (Together For 10 Years)

"You angle your body towards who you love. And Randall and Jae Suh’s bodies reveal that their hearts belong to the other even though they’re looking at the camera."

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