But here’s the thing: A job comes with pay, incentivized rewards, opportunity for growth, and days off. None apply to parenthood. And let’s be real: Outside of sound bites, no one in the professional sector sees parenthood as a job. If they did, parenting would be talked up on interviews and take up ample résumé real estate.
As it is, mothers who choose to work outside the home have a hard enough time being seen as legitimate candidates for a role. Studies have shown
that women with children are less likely to be hired, promoted, and paid on par with their childless peers. And Ivanka’s language doesn’t help combat sexist assumptions from hiring managers. If a mother already has a “job,” how would she possibly have time for another one?
Equating motherhood to a job can also be psychologically harmful to new parents. When I had my daughter at age 32, I had more than a decade of work experience as a journalist. I was good at my job. And when Lucy was born, I applied the same rigor I had with work to my new role as a parent. I read more than 100 parenting books and spent hours researching the best baby gear. I was determined to be the best mother, ever.