Modern Manners: The New Rules For Real Life

This story was originally published on July 8, 2013.
Checked email at dinner recently? Or perhaps you've gotten into a heated debate about politics at a cocktail party? Both are totally against the rules, right? And yet...we all do it. A lot.
Which is why we figured it was high time that dusty, antiquated rule book got an upgrade. So, we checked in with Lizzie Post (yes, that Post — let's just call her the modern-day Mistress of Manners) to put together a thoroughly usable (not-at-all lame) primer on all things ettiqutte. Something to fill the void in your heart left by the original Tiffany's Table Manners for Teenagers — that actually applies to your life today.
Oh, and don't worry. We finally got an answer on whether or not you can really wait a year to send a wedding gift....

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