It’s Not You

There are certain things about myself that I’ve had to come to grips with when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships. I’m not a “cool girl;” w

This story was originally published on January 12, 2017. Right before Christmas of last year, I posted a personal essay called “I May Never Find Love

A few months ago, I was on a date with a guy when he asked me the second-date question I hate the most: “When was your last serious relationship?” I to

I turned 27 this past March, and it was a birthday of realizations. I realized that when someone suggests moving your birthday party to a warehouse concert

I was lucky to have grown up with two parents who pushed me and my brothers equally to achieve our goals in life. My father always told me that, in order t

I was recently rewatching old episodes of Sex and the City, cry-laughing at how poorly the show holds up in today’s modern dating culture (it’s bad, gu

As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll

Being one of the token single women in your friend group means that you become numb to certain conversations and situations. Last New Year’s Eve, it didn

Someone isn't a bad person if they're just interested in casual sex — but YOU may be wrong depending on how you handle the situation.

As much as I love sharing my dating stories, there are a lot of experiences that I haven't had. That's why, as part of It’s Not You, I'll

I used to never understand people who would wax poetic about the beginnings of relationships. They’d go on about how much they loved the new-ness of ever

When you start writing about your romantic life, people tend to assume certain things about you. Over the weekend, a guy asked if I felt pressure to seek o

I have a strong aversion to walking into places first. It’s true — if I’m out with family or friends, I’ll always try to be the first to the door,

There’s this weird thing that a lot of us do when we find ourselves at the end of a relationship. We’ll be out with friends, sifting through the rubble

I used to treat my dating apps the same way I’d treat trips to the gym — as a means to an end. I wanted my ass to be an inch higher than it is, so I’

There are certain things in life I meander through: cooking dinner, long walks through Central Park, and paying my rent. But, for the most part, I rush eve

I’ve never been great at deciding things on my own. I blame it on the fact that I’m a Pisces — we fish tend to be more than a little wishy washy. And

From the time I was in elementary school, I was aware of the fact that there was a certain breed of woman that straight guys preferred: the Cool Girl. I ma