We love each other more than anything, and this isn’t a make-or-break kind of deal, but we just need to find some common ground.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and everything has been great. He’s 11 years older than me — he’s 41 and I’m 30 — and I could not have asked for a more perfect mate and love him endlessly. The problem is that he doesn’t have kids, and he doesn’t want them. He was married for 10 years, and they did not have kids. I’ve never been married, but this guy is my dream-beyond-dream match.
When we first met and started dating, he said he wanted to get married and have a family. A year later, he asked me to move in with him. He slowly hinted to the thought of having kids “cramping his style” earlier on, but I pushed it aside because he’s great with them. After living with him for three months now, the children conversation came up, and he is now saying he changed his mind and doesn’t want them. After living with him and spending quality time with him, I truly believe he is telling the truth and that he would rather live his life without a family. I don’t know what to do because I have put all of my eggs in one basket and really thought this guy was The One. It’s still so early to be having this conversation, but I don’t see a future with him if he doesn’t see a future with me and having a family. Help! What do I do?