My boyfriend and I are having a problem with mismatched libidos. We’ve been together for a little over a year, and most of that has been the hormone-filled, can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other, sex-all-the-time phase. We recently moved in together, and as we settle into a routine, I find that he’s less and less interested in sex. At first, it took me a while to notice that I was always the one initiating it; now, I can’t help but think about it all the time.
Most of the times that we do have sex, he’s more of a passive participant than an enthusiastic lover — which, of everything in bed I’ve tried, is the biggest turn-on for me. I feel like he’s pressured to have sex with me to keep me happy; in turn, it puts pressure on me to make it as enjoyable as possible for him, in hopes that he’ll want it more often. Both things lead to me feeling unsatisfied anyway. What should I do?