One, get an advocate at work. It doesn’t have to be another woman — just someone to whom you can speak confidentially about professional matters, and whose opinion you value. If you can’t find someone like this at your office (a red flag, by the way), go to someone else in your network, whether a family friend who works in the same field, a college professor who you keep in touch with, or even a former boss from an internship. Two, look up. Do you see women at the highest levels where you work? If so, do they invest in the careers of other women? If the answer is yes, great — ask one of those women if you can take her to coffee. If the answer is no, that’s another red flag, and you need to ask yourself whether you want to work for a company where women aren’t represented at the top.