She invited me to the bar with her friends one day and told me a secret, which I kept it. Later on, I told her a secret and she kept it, too. We’ve been friends since.”
No one can relate to the things you experience as a woman of colour. Especially when, for example, an older white man ask if your braids are fake in front of meeting attendees.
Having someone to talk to who saw what was going on helped validate my experiences and realise that it wasn't just me.