Sweaters, Sex Toys, & 12 Other Things People "Accidentally" Kept After A Breakup

Photographed by Renell Medrano.
I have a lot of sex toys. Clit vibrators, G-spot vibrators, wand massagers, bullet vibes, rabbit vibes, a glass dildo, and an oral sex simulator are all neatly tucked away in a drawer beside my bed. But there's one toy that's conspicuously missing from my collection: a strap-on. And it's missing because my ex stole it.
Of course, she probably doesn't see it as stealing so much as an unfortunate turn of events — for me. We had been keeping the strap-on at her place due to my awkward roommate situation (I sleep in the living room and have no door). So there it was, sitting in a box underneath her bed, when everything blew up.
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You see, we weren't really in a relationship. She was my casual sex friend, something we both decided before we started sleeping together. But while we were out at a bar one night, she told me that she didn't want to be casual anymore. She wanted us to be in a real relationship. The problem was, I didn't. When she drove off in an Uber and furiously texted that she never wanted to see my face again, it was pretty clear that I wouldn't be welcome to stop by and pick up my strap-on.
So that was that — RIP strap-on, it was nice knowing you.
I still think of my dearly departed sex toy every now and then, and when I think about how my ex "accidentally" kept it, I wonder what else people have sneakily kept after a breakup. Because it can't just be something that happened to me, right? So, I asked around and found 17 other people who "accidentally" kept something of their exes', too — or had an ex keep something of theirs.
Rest assured, if you're the one who walked away from a relationship with a little something extra, whether it really was an accident or not, you're not alone. Read on for their stories.
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My mom found it in my childhood room and demanded I mail it back to him.

"I have a gold ring that has my high school boyfriend's name on it. His mother bought it for him and he gave it to me — this is well over 10 years ago. One time, my mom found it in my childhood room and demanded I mail it back to him. I told her I did... but I didn't. I can't decide if I wanna sell it or just hold onto it forever as a 'screw you' trophy." — Briana, 27, New Jersey.
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I had a habit of collecting our high school sports team sweatshirts.

"In high school, I had a habit of collecting our high school sports team sweatshirts from the boys I dated. Every time we'd break up (or whatever you call it in high school), I'd 'accidentally' keep their sweatshirts. Most of the time, they were HUGE on me, but I didn't care. By the end of high school, I had a football sweatshirt, a tennis sweatshirt, and a hockey sweatshirt. Now, it's just a hilarious reminder of how many athletes I dated." — Jen, 23, Colorado.
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3 of 17

I still have my ex's chair.

"I still have my ex's chair because my living room looks weird without it." — Susan, 27, Oklahoma.
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There was no way I was going to give up that comfy loungewear.

"I kept his old Harvard sweatshirt. He was more of a summer fling than a boyfriend, but once the fall hit there was no way I was going to give up that comfy loungewear. I wear it at least once a week hanging out in my apartment." — Denise, 25, New York.
5 of 17

A super cozy Patagonia sweater.

"A super cozy Patagonia sweater that she told me let all other queer ladies identify her as queer." — Heather, 28, Washington.
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I didn’t feel I should be keeping this one.

"My ex once gave me a lovely photo of him aged three or four. It was particularly special so when I came across it many years later I posted it back to him with a note. Baby and childhood pictures are important to every family, and I didn’t feel I should be keeping this one from his." — Meg, 43, Massachusetts.
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I put all of his stuff in a bag and conveniently 'forgot' to include that item.

"A SharkTank product, the 'Fizzics' that allows you to pour a beer from a bottle/can/growler as if it came out of a tap. I put all of his stuff in a bag and conveniently 'forgot' to include that item. I figured it was only fair considering I bothered to return all of his stuff that he'd left at my place but he didn't return the favor." — Megan, 28, Washington, DC.
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The sweater that was given to him by his ex.

"I 'accidentally' kept my ex-boyfriend's sweater. The sweater that was given to him by his ex who is also his best friend/roommate and the reason why my boyfriend and I broke up in the first place." — Maurice, 25, New York.
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All of his belongings.

"I 'accidentally' kept all of his belongings (we were living together at the time) and 'accidentally' gave all of his clothes, shoes, and jewelry to people dealing with homelessness." — Sunny, 31, California.
10 of 17

When I told her who it actually belonged to, she looked horrified.

"I kept a sweatshirt of my ex's after we broke up. I came across it in my closet a few months from the day we called it quits. It was a pretty mutual split, but I didn't have the heart to throw away this nice sweater from his university that must've cost a pretty penny and felt too awkward to return it to him at that point. One day I came home and saw my little sister wearing the sweater... you know, how younger sisters who go through your closet always do. I asked her why she was wearing it, clearly shocked... she thought it had belonged to my best friend who had also attended that same university at the time. When I told her who it actually belonged to, she looked horrified. We still laugh about it to this day." — Bri, 23, New Jersey.
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I didn't realize I still had them until I was packing up my apartment to move cross-country.

"I really did accidentally keep a few shirts of my ex's after we broke up. I didn't realize I still had them until I was packing up my apartment to move cross-country. I reached out to him (after a year of no contact) to ask if he wanted the items back. As it turns out, he'd kept some of my old shirts and yoga leggings, but gave them to his new fiancé (according to him she didn't know they were mine). He ended up trying to use that as an opportunity to get back together... I regretted contacting him immediately." — Elle, 24, California.
12 of 17

Whoops!

"I kept a black scarf from my ex (it was his favorite, and became mine too). I took it from him when we went to Coney Island one weekend during the off season and it was freezing. It acted as my blanket. I lugged it in my suitcase with me when I was moving apartments and somehow hoarded it. I just rediscovered it this winter when I opened up my winter suitcase.. whoops!" — Lulu, 24, North Carolina.
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13 of 17

He made a big show of dropping off a box full of everything... except that.

"I bought a really expensive bullet vibrator in Amsterdam to surprise my boyfriend. It was made for couples with ridges to fit between your peace fingers during *~penetrative~* sex. We always kept it at his place since I lived with my parents after college. He and I stayed FWB after the breakup, and I even lauded his attempts at talking to other girls. When we finally had a blowup, he made a big show of dropping off a box full of everything... except that. And he was calling someone his girlfriend the very next week. Guess he seduced her with my toy. Barf." — Katie, 25, North Carolina.
14 of 17

He jokingly told me, 'I want my Gamecube back.'

"While we were dating, my ex from high school brought his Nintendo Gamecube to my house so we could play it together (I had a better TV at my place). We dated through the start of college, then had an ugly break up. I conveniently 'forgot' to let him know I still had the Gamecube in my possession. I still have it to this day, along with several games he brought with it! Eventually we became on fine terms with each other again. I ran into him at a mutual friend's birthday party a few years ago and he jokingly told me, 'I want my Gamecube back.' We laughed. If he was actually serious, too bad. I still have the Gamecube." — Kristina, 29, New York.
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I still have a set of keys to his apartment! And they still work.

"After a four-year relationship, we mutually decided it was time to spilt. On our last date, we went to the ballet and then to dinner. I kissed him goodbye and said I didn't want to see him in 2016. Well, I haven't seen him since and I still have a set of keys to his apartment! And they still work. I was supposed to mail them to him, but never did!" — Amanda, 29, New York.
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All of my roommates wanted me to get rid of the stuff he gave me.

"In college, I started dating an older guy who worked on campus. He was a great guy and really knew how to treat a girl right! He took me to fancy restaurants and to ballets and showered me with gifts. After we broke up, all of my roommates wanted me to get rid of the stuff he gave me. I told them I did, but really I just shipped them to my parents' house. I still have most of the stuff he gave me, even though I’m happily married (to someone else) with a kid." — Samantha, 25, Idaho.
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[I] still rock them, even though the romance is long dead!

"Jewelry and shoes. [I] still rock them, even though the romance is long dead!" — Fiona, 28, New York.
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