"I am a 22-year-old girl, and I had sex for the first time two years ago. I have never had sex with someone regularly, but every time that I do now (which is somewhat infrequently), it really, really hurts. I'm not sure what to do, and I feel ashamed because I haven't been enjoying it. Is there something wrong with me for not enjoying it?"
"I'm 18 and very sexual when I'm by myself. I think about sex almost constantly and have a very healthy relationship with my vagina. My problem is that when I'm having penis-in-vagina sex, I hate it. It hurts, and I can never enjoy myself when someone is inside me — no matter how badly I want them. Am I just not meant to have two-person sex? Am I a solo kinda gal for life?"
"I can't orgasm. Well, I think I can (I think I can, I think I can...), but it just won't happen. I don't want to blame my partners, but I don't know what to do if I blame myself instead! I've tried to find out what I like, but I'm sincerely confused, and then I get impatient with myself."
"I love having sex with my boyfriend even if I don't orgasm. The way he feels inside of me is amazing, but I haven't been able to reach completion if I don't also manually stimulate myself, even if he goes down on me. I want my hands to be free to touch and caress him and not tied down there trying to reach orgasm. I know it's common for women to need clitoral stimulation, but I feel like I rely on that too much! Any advice on hands-free fun?"
"I consider myself a sexual person — that is to say that I enjoy sex a lot and even have myself a few toys. Though, I've had the persistent issue of not being able to orgasm. I want to, and I semi-frequently masturbate — but without climaxing. What would you recommend? I understand the ways in which women orgasm are as diverse as women themselves. Though I'm interested in any advice you're able to give. I know this could be psychological, but I don't know how to make it better."