"My mom showers me with affection, a behavior she didn’t pick up from her mom."
"As early as childhood, we are aware of what feels like love and what doesn't. We are also keen observers of signs of love that we witness others display. ... As parents, we likely choose one of two different pathways. The first is repeating the pattern experienced, and the second is tapping into an unmet need and making a conscious effort to repattern the behavior."