Kelly Bourdet, Refinery29 health and wellness director:
Well, it happens to most people, so we might as well get over it.
Figures on infidelity vary widely. This makes sense: Those keeping affairs a secret are likely to withhold that information from their friendly sexuality researcher. But, as a starting point, one 1997 study found that an affair had occured
in 40% to 76% of marriages. Keep in mind, though, that this study only examined heterosexual marriages. A more recent study, out this year, found that over 50% of both men and women had committed infidelity at some point — and this study surveyed gay men and lesbian women in addition to heterosexual men and women. So, while we don’t really know how many people have cheatin’ hearts, it’s likely most of us will be touched by infidelity in some way.
In her 2007 book, Lust in Translation, former Wall Street Journal reporter Pamela Druckerman explores how various cultures across the globe deal with infidelity: "Americans are the worst, both at having affairs and dealing with the aftermath," she told Men’s Health. "Adultery crises in America last longer, cost more, and seem to inflict more emotional torture." It appears the French, on the other hand, are more accepting of infidelity. In a survey conducted in 2012, only 47% of French people
said it was "morally unacceptable" for married people to have an affair (for reference, 84% of Americans believe it’s morally unacceptable).