How To Make Getting Over A Breakup Way Easier

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You know what ABBA said: Breaking up is never easy. It doesn't matter if it was a short fling, a casual relationship, or true love — parting ways is painful. And, while only time can heal all wounds (we think), what about immediate relief? There has to be something that can help — other than ice cream, that is.
The first thing that typically happens post-breakup is a snowstorm of sympathetic words from your friends and family. Caroline from Cup of Jo says that while all that support and advice is nice, remember to trust your gut. Listen to your friends, but don't take their words as the end-all-be-all of what you should do. If you're feeling really unsure of things (like whether you should go for that rebound relationship), seek out advice from an unbiased third party, such as a therapist, who can help you find what feels right for you in a judgment-free space. Even though your loved ones have your best interests at heart, it's important to do what you feel comfortable with.
Another tip is to read. It sounds simple, but it can actually lead to a big breakthrough — as long as you aren't reading Gone Girl. The book that worked for Caroline is Words That Matter: A Little Book of Life Lessons. And, while you may be feeling bitter, upset, and confused all at the same time, go hug something or someone (your ex is not a good option, but your mom/brother/puppy is). This can be a simple reminder that love and possibility are everywhere. Click through for more tried-and-true advice from someone who has loved, lost, and learned from it all. (A Cup of Jo)

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