Just in case you thought my real life was anything like these tiny squares, I give you: this is 4 months. J has been an incredibly easy baby, from labor to delivery to him being *here*. But 4 months happened and his needs have grown tenfold. The other day I spent THREE HOURS like this, people. J had to be swaddled, on his back, in my arms. While I was bouncing on my giant exercise ball (never once used for it's intended purpose). With my boob perfectly resting in just the right spot on his chin. Our house was (is) a mess, my breakfast (lactation smoothie) sitting abandoned behind me, dirty hair and desperately in need of a shower (and 5 minutes without someone touching me) - and at the brink of tears. I mean, I was too lazy to even take the sticker from our movers off the stability ball ? and I'm pretty sure you can see the remnants of my snowflake crafting on the carpet next to the couch I forgot to clean up. The truth is, this is who I am most days. Not a put together human who has her act together. Not a mom who can juggle working from home, kids, etc. I'm just a crazy person trying to maintain some semblance of calm while attempting to figure it all out. Counting down the hours until bedtime and the kids are asleep, and then that first delicious sip of Gin & Tonics or wine. And you better believe I VSCO and heavily edited the you-know-what out of this picture to make it look light and airy and "fit my feed". Because I'm stuck on the couch under a 4 month old cluster feeding little dude who won't have anything to do with anyone but me. - Here's to YOU mama, holding it together even when it gets rough. And even if you're not, you're still a part of this club of crazy. Anyone else having a really rough week? - - - - #beautifulbfing #breastfeeding #breastfeedwithoutfear #breastfeedingmom #motherhood #fedisbest #darlingmovement #our_everyday_moments #bfing #breastfeedingisbeautiful #mommyandme #momlife #mommylife #noshame #normalizebreastfeeding #rainbowbaby #happymom #mamabear #theDulcetLife #boymom #feelthefeelings #joyfulmamas #liveauthentic #motherhoodunplugged #mybeautifulmess #ourcandidlife #ohheymama #thehappynow #momofboys #honestmotherhood
Though we love mommy blogs as much as the next person, we know that their perfectly filtered photos aren't always a reality for most families. In a brutally honest post, mother and blogger Shannon Peterson reminded her followers that motherhood doesn't always look like what social media makes it out to be — and that's okay. Peterson wrote a blog post as well as an Instagram post that nailed the truth behind those edited photos on your feed. "Just in case you thought my real life was anything like these tiny squares, I give you: this is 4 months," she wrote alongside a photo of herself and her son. While her son, whom she refers to only as J, has been an "easy baby" to take care of until now, his needs have increased as he's grown up.
"The other day I spent THREE HOURS like this, people," she wrote. "J had to be swaddled, on his back, in my arms. While I was bouncing on my giant exercise ball (never once used for its intended purpose). With my boob perfectly resting in just the right spot on his chin." Not only that, she said, the house was a mess, she didn't get to have her breakfast that morning, and she was "desperately in need of a shower," all of which understandably left her on the brink of tears when this photo was taken. "The truth is, this is who I am most days," she wrote. "Not a put together human who has her act together. Not a mom who can juggle working from home, kids, etc. I'm just a crazy person trying to maintain some semblance of calm while attempting to figure it all out." Peterson told Huffington Post that as a mother who has experienced postpartum depression and anxiety, she was motivated to post a more honest view of motherhood. "Scrolling through my feed is hard ― seeing all these beautiful moms with their hair and makeup done every day, perfectly put together left me wondering why I couldn’t be that," she said. Her post is an important reminder that as wonderful as being a parent is, it's never perfect, and there's nothing wrong with that. "I think it’s really easy to forget about the need to share the hard things, because we all want people to know how awesome being a mom and parent can be," she told Huffington Post. "But I also think it’s really important to address the not-so-great stuff so that people know it’s normal.”