Porn Stars On Whether Porn Is Bad For Relationships

For as long as it has existed, porn has been blamed for poisoning (male) minds and tearing couples apart. We're calling fear-mongering. Yes, porn-watching may lead to unrealistic expectations when viewers don't recognize that the sex in porn is fantasy, not an example to emulate. But porn itself isn't the enemy — it's all in how you use it, at least according to the porn performers featured in the latest episode of porn site Wood Rocket's (SFW) video series "Ask A Porn Star."

"I think porn can be harmful to couples if the guy or girl is in another room furiously masturbating obsessively to porn and not taking care of the needs of their partner," Kimberley Kane explains.

"It depends how couples treat porn," Mick Blue echoes. "If the guys" — or women, it's worth adding — "seclude themselves from their [partners] and don't want to fuck them anymore because they'd rather jerk off on porn, then yes, it can be bad for relationships and for couples. But if couples turn each other on watching porn together or it's included into their sex life, it can be helpful and fun."

Rain DeGrey, meanwhile, stresses the importance of remembering that porn is fiction enacted by professionals, rather than a model for real sex lives. "We're stunt people," she says. "When you're looking at porn, you're literally looking at the best fuckers in the world giving their 'A' game."

In other words, enjoy porn as part of a complete sex life, but don't feel the need to try everything you see at home, kids. Watch the video above for more performer takes.
Advertisement

More from Sex & Relationships

Watch

R29 Original Series

Watch Now
Documentary
Five love stories behind diverse, multicultural marriages.
Watch Now
Lifestyle
Life experiments, 5 days at a time.
Watch Now
Fashion
The style of subculture.
Watch Now
Beauty
Viral trends, tried and tested.
Watch Now
Documentary
From vibrators to lipstick, learn how your favorite products are made.
Watch Now
Documentary
Extraordinary, one-of-a-kind individuals
Watch Now
Documentary
The latest stories to watch.
Watch Now
Lifestyle
Inside the homes of millennial women — & what they paid for them
Watch Now
Comedy
Let's talk about sex, baby.
Watch Now
Documentary
Female artisans around the world
Watch Now
Politics
Made by and for smart, opinionated women.
Watch Now
Film
We helped 12 female directors claim their power.