You started your career in a completely different field. What compelled you to get into this kind of work?
"I was on my own hardcore path of trying to figure myself out as a young woman, like most 20-somethings. I started a PR business when I was 21, representing nightclubs here in New York. Eventually, I began to see that I was looking for all of my happiness and my self-worth outside of myself. I was looking for it in my credentials, in my relationships, in having inside access to New York nightlife — and all of that was really unfulfilling. It wasn't giving me what I wanted.
One of the most interesting parts of your methods is the integration of physical activity. How did that come about?
"Before I re-visited my meditation practice and my spiritual practice, the only place where I could find solace was through the gym, on the trampoline, running, or rollerblading. Somehow I was, through my body, finding that connection to the divine. Sometimes, that's the only way people can get that sense of serenity.
You're obviously very devoted to your spiritual life, but you're a successful businesswoman, too. How do you balance the business hustle with maintaining your personal peace?
"As much as I love teaching, I also love being an entrepreneur. It's such a huge part of who I am. I love marketing. I love negotiating. I love collaborating. I love coming up with new ideas. But there are a lot of spiritual teachers who don't know how to market themselves or are afraid to. Some of them feel that working in wellness means they shouldn't be successful or have abundance. But that's complete crap. I think if you have a message that is going to serve the masses, then you better make sure it's heard. I'm going to take responsibility for the fact I have made these major commitments in my own life — how dare I not share them?
Are you working on a new project right now?
"I am. My fourth book, Miracles Now, will be out in April of 2014. I've also recently become a Kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, as well. So, I've incorporated a lot of Kundalini meditations into this book. It's a collection of one-minute exercises meant to help you bust through the blocks and relieve stress. Everyone can use these. Everyone. These are the kind of meditations you can do anytime, anywhere. They're all meant for circumstantial situations, like waiting in line at the bank or if you're just having a bad day. I'm more excited about this book than I have been about any of my others."
Tell us a little about your group-coaching.
"I do frequent workshops, which are based in New York, but are simultaneously live-streamed all over the world. Those are now sort of like a Dharma talk, mixed with some Kundalini exercises, and a lot of Q&A. The workshops are great for people ready to do deep work. Even if there are 500 people in the workshop, it's a very intimate experience just being in the energy of the room. And if you do it online, you're closer to me than the person in the back of the room. So, there is still an intimacy no matter where you are. That's what my intention is."
Shifting gears a little bit, we love your eclectic mix of accessories, vintage, and designer pieces. How would you describe your personal style?
"I guess I lean toward boho-chic. I really love to wear bright caftans. I love to wear tight jeans. So, it's a combination of being in something flowy with something form-fitting. I was obsessed with Isabel Marant sneakers, until they became the biggest trend in the world — [laughing] that's about the most devastating thing that's ever happened to me.
As someone in the field of personal growth, what are your thoughts on fashion, in general?
"Putting on nice clothes makes you feel like you're being more self-loving. It's an expression of you internally and reflects your own self-respect. I really do have a lot of love and joy for fashion. You can be spiritual and still have fabulous shoes. It doesn't have to be one or the other."
On top of all that, you're about to get married — congratulations! In the past, you've talked a lot about your own relationship struggles, and those of your friends. What was the biggest personal shift you made in order to be in a healthy, long-term relationship?
"Well, I'm marrying the guy from Spirit Junkie. We were together for two years, broke up for a year, and then got back together four years ago. I had to find the inner power and strength to walk away and have the fearlessness to say, I'm willing to be on my own and I'm willing to let this go because it wasn't right at the time. That year, I spent alone was a radical act of self-love. I proved to myself that I can be self-reliant, that I can be fulfilled with or without a romantic partner. Your romantic partner should be the icing on the already-awesome cake, as my coach says.
A lot of us are in that phase of life where we feel the pressure to progress. It seems like everyone is getting married, going to grad school, buying houses — but so many are still trying to find themselves. Any words of wisdom for those still trying to "figure it out"?
"Don't try to think about the it. What you're trying to figure out isn't something outside of yourself — it's an internal condition. You must work on a solid inner framework and a way to access inner peace, whether it's by picking up a meditation practice, actively using affirmations, or even following a blogger that inspires you. Whatever it is that helps you access inner peace. If you make your internal life a priority, then everything else you need on the outside will be given to you and it will be extremely clear what the next step is."