Most of us refer to this uncertainty as "cold feet" or "wedding jitters." But if you're someone who already has anxiety, you might be inclined to "catastrophise," or spin a worst-case possible scenario out of every situation. In this case, you might feel like you're one decision away from doing the wrong thing with your life.
To be clear, a little bit of anxiety can be a good thing when you're getting married, says Amy Simpson, MS, LMFT, a marriage and family therapist in Cranston, RI. "That's the thing that kind of motivates us to get stuff done," she says. Anxiety can also be protective, and it's sort of a signal for us to put our proverbial seatbelt on before committing to something major, she adds. The key is being able to tell the difference between good jitters and a sinking feeling that you need to redirect course.
Ahead are tips from Dr. Boateng and Simpson, whether you're a bride-to-be or are second-guessing any long-term relationship.