What To Gift Your Long-Distance Partner (Besides A Surprise Visit)

When in a long-distance relationship, a surprise visit to see your partner checks all the boxes of useful, thoughtful, and memorable gifting material. But this year, buying a plane ticket or taking time off of work may not be the most feasible of options — so, you'll likely have to send your SO something special in place of yours truly.

We hunted down the best gifts to show your faraway person that you'd go the long-distance if you could: some of the options will make their alone time feel a little less lonely; others will make eventual back-and-forth travel a bit more tolerable; a few will help you feel closer as a couple. Whether you live miles apart or are just temporarily out of arm's reach, the sweet ideas ahead are here to save the [holi]day.


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Personalized Time Zone Clock

So they know when it’s time to send you a "goodnight" text.
Kuco Design Personalized Concrete Wall Clock, $75.00 Buy
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Usual Wines, Mixed Pack

Have a mixed pack of single-serving wine shipped to your partner's door to plan a candlelit wine date from afar.
Usual Wines Mixed Pack, Box Of 12, $96.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Bloomsy Box.

Bouquet subscription

Send your partner a recurring bouquet of flowers every month that you're away.
Bloomsy Box Bloomsy Farm Classic, $43.99 Buy
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Bluetooth vibrator

This vibrator is controlled by a smartphone app and can be turned on from any distance. So your partner can do the honors of making you orgasm from across the country.
OhMiBod Esca 2 Couples Vibrator, $119.00 $101.15 Buy
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Picture Frame

Fill this cube frame with the fun Polaroid photos you took together.
Urban Outfitters Instax Mini Cube Picture Frame, $12.00 Buy
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Galaxy Projector Sky Light

Purchase this galaxy projector for you and your partner to stargaze together from miles away.
BlissLights Sky Lite Laser Galaxy Projector, $49.99 Buy
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Phone stand

Prop your phone up on this stand for FaceTime dates that go all night. For some extra ambiance, this stand serves double duty as a vase for some sweet blooms.
Stak Ceramics Bedside Smartphone Vase, $32.00 Buy
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"Send Nudes" Pin

A pin to celebrate your favorite couple's activity: sending nudes.
Towne9 Send Nudes Polaroid Enamel Pin, $10.00 Buy
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Body pillow

For the little spoons missing their big spoons.
Leachco Snoogle Total Body Pillow, $69.99 Buy
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Whether they're wearing new lingerie, you're wearing new lingerie, or you both are, give the gift of dressed-up sexy selfies.
Savage x Fenty Savage Not Sorry Lace Bodysuit, $74.95 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Lush.

Bath Bomb

A sexy bath bomb for all your partner's "me time."
Miss Patisserie Great Ball of Fizz Gift Set, $35.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Away.

Weekender Bag

If the distance between you is only a short train ride or road trip away and they're going to be traveling to come see you, might as well get them a practical weekender bag.
Dagne Dover Landon Carryall Bag - Large, $185.00 Buy
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Blue Apron gift card

Sign the both of you up for Blue Apron and you can cook the same dinner "together" each night.
HelloFresh Gift Card, $65.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Izola.

Dopp kit

A new dopp kit for those future overnight trips or just a little something to keep their bathroom drawer organized.
lululemon All Your Small Things Pouch 4L, $38.00 Buy
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Pretty stationery for all those love letters you said you were going to send each other.
Paper Source Blue Marble Swirl With Gold Stationery Set (10), $14.95 Buy
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Map out your future facetime dates and road trips in this classic planner.

Poketo Simple Planner, $36.00 Buy
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A candle to match the perfume you always wear.
Le Labo Santal 26 Classic Candle, $75.00 Buy
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The Sun Is Also A Star

This bittersweet story of a couple working through their own LDR challenges could give you hope for your relationship. Send a copy and keep one, so you can do a book club for two
Delacorte Press The Sun Is Also a Star, $18.99 $15.63 Buy
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Long-Distance Lamps

Tap this light when you’re thinking about your partner, and their corresponding lamp will simultaneously light up miles away. Cheesy? Yes. Cute? Also yes. Funny way to creep them out in the middle of the night? Sure, that too.
Uncommon Goods Long Distance Friendship Lamp, $170.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Bed Bath & Beyond.

Bath Caddy

People in LDRs can Netflix and chill (in the bath), too.
Bay Isle Home Rosina Bath Caddy, $59.95 Buy
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Long Distance Touch Bracelet Set

Let your significant other know you're thinking of them with these matching connected bracelets. Touch one and the other lights up and vibrates with customizable colors and visuals.
Bond Touch Long Distance Touch Bracelet Set, $98.00 Buy
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Travel Toiletries

For your eventual reunion, upgrade their travel toiletries with this Aesop set. It comes with all the fancy face masks and creams that they always forget to pack.
Aesop Departure Kit, $53.00 Buy
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SiriusXM gift card

If your partner is game to take a road trip to visit you, give them a SiriusXM subscription so they can listen to the best tunes along the way.
SIRIUS $50 Prepaid Service Card, $50.00 Buy
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A millennial pink vibe gives them something to look forward to.
LELO ELISE™ 2, $199.00 Buy
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Foot Massager

You can't rub their feet at the end of a long day, but this gift is the next best thing.
Brookstone Shiatsu Foot Massager with Heat, $229.99 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Etsy.


Matching mugs with your corresponding states can help keep your coffee ritual unscathed, even when you're away.
essem JAC Long Distance Anywhere Personalized Coffee Mugs, $19.99 Buy
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Instagram Photo Book

Cherishing memories is important when you're in an LDR. Print a photo book of the Instagrams you posted during your last visit so they can re-live them whenever they want.
Artifact Uprising Instagram Friendly Books, $15.00 Buy
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Matching phone case

Using a couple's phone case shows the world who they're texting.
Lex Studio Designs Cosmonauts Love Couple Case, $29.80 $26.82 Buy
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Audible Gift Card

Start listening to the same Audible book and you can compare notes along the way, like a virtual book club.
Audible Gift Card, $45.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Amazon.

Going Into Town: A Love Letter To New York

This clever New York City-themed picture book will remind them why they moved away in the first place.
Amazon Going Into Town: A Love Letter to New York, $28.00 $18.99 Buy
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Neck Pillow

This comfortable neck travel pillow makes those future discount train tickets seem like a good idea after all.
MoMA Ostrich Pillow Go, $60.00 Buy
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Hulu Gift Card

So you can both cry to This Is Us together.
Hulu Hulu Gift Card, $25.00 Buy
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Photo: Courtesy of Lumee.

Light-Up Phone Case

A light-up phone case, because taking high-quality selfies requires just the right lighting.
Lumee Duo Matte Black, $70.00 Buy
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Portal From Facebook

The perfect gift for a bi-coastal partnership.
Facebook Facebook 10-Inch Portal with Alexa Built-In, $179.00 Buy
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College Sweatshirt

Wearing this college sweater will remind your partner of all the memories you shared together. But it's made with cashmere yarn, so it's fancier than the ratty sweatshirt they actually wore in college.
Hillflint UCLA Pennant Sweater, $90.00 Buy
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Outlet Adapter

They could probably use another outlet adapter; this one isn't hideous.
Flight 001 5-in-1 Universal Adapter, $35.00 Buy
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