I don’t enjoy kissing my husband. We’ve been married for 17 years and have two wonderful children. We have regular sex (at least once a week). However, kissing him is always a turnoff, whether it’s a morning off-to-work kiss or a steamy under-the-covers smooch. He’s always been kind of a wet kisser, and I suppose I’ve never really liked kissing fish lips, so I’ve endured it. I’ve kissed others and enjoyed making out immensely (kissing is not a deal-breaker in our relationship). I’ve even told him I don’t like kissing him, but I feel horrible about it because I love him and I know it hurts him. What can I do?
How will I know if my boyfriend's personal-space boundaries are an excuse for not wanting a deeper relationship? He has been divorced for two years after a 22-year marriage to an alcoholic. He paid for her detox and rehab three times, and I realize its failure was a deep disappointment for him and their two (now young-adult) children. I care for this man, whom I've been seeing for three months, but I'm not sure that I should invest more time and emotion into this relationship if it will never grow.