Nobody can do it
History lesson time! The idea that female ejaculation is fake or impossible is actually a pretty new one. Early sex advice manuals (like the Kama Sutra) not only acknowledged squirting, but also honored it as a natural, critical, and beautiful part of sex. Unfortunately, modern science hasn’t been as celebratory of the full spectrum of women’s sexuality, and doctors and researchers in the 1800s (most of whom were male, obviously) became skeptical about the existence of female ejaculation. They basically claimed all this squirting was really just “peeing during sex,” so what was previously a celebrated aspect of sexuality became a medical condition. Not cool, dudes.
As previously mentioned, doctors had historically chalked squirting up to sexual dysfunction, speculating that women were peeing during sex. During this time, according to Rebecca Chalker’s The Clitoral Truth, some women underwent unnecessary surgeries to “correct” a problem that wasn’t actually a problem. Others simply tried to hold it in, preventing orgasms, or suppressing sexual pleasure. Bummer city, man.
Ejaculation always happens during orgasm
Unlike the typical ejaculation from a penis, vaginal ejaculation isn’t necessarily connected to orgasms. Some people squirt before having an orgasm, some during, and some after — or all three. Also unlike penile ejaculation, there can be many “bursts,” not just one grand finale. While ejaculation from a penis is largely involuntary, those of us with vulvas can sometimes control whether or not we squirt (although it’s also totally normal for it to happen spontaneously). All that’s truly needed is any kind of stimulation that fills the Skene’s glands with ejaculate — no orgasm required.