"If i complain about my children, don't say i don't love them," she wrote. "If i say how perfect they are, don't tell me I'm too braggy. You don't see the hours I spend holding and loving them."
Mazza then goes into exactly the things we shouldn't be shaming other moms for — and she's got a pretty sizable list, from how moms feed their babies, to how they discipline their children.
"Don't judge the mother who is formula feeding," she wrote. "You don't know if she struggled for months on end trying to make it work. [...] Don't judge the mother who breastfeeds in public. You don't know if today was the day she finally got the confidence to do it. You don't know how hard she's worked to keep that breastfeeding going. Don't belittle the act of a mother feeding her baby."
"Don't judge the mum who works, she's making a living for her child," she continued. "Don't judge the mum who stays home, she's doing the job of 20 for no pay."
"Every mother has her own story," she wrote. "She has walked down a tough path. You don't know her challenges, her strengths, her weaknesses...Her life, you don't know any of it. [...] remember before you criticise, accuse or abuse, you have to walk a mile in her shoes."
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