I've been seeing this guy for nine months. From the beginning, we've both said to each other that we didn't want a relationship and wouldn't get emotionally attached to each other. As time went by, we kept seeing each other. We've gone to the movies, we've had sex, and I've met his family. I've realized that he does care about me, but he still feels no need for a title. We both enjoy being with each other, and we have great conversations. We can talk for hours... He was in a long-distance relationship for four years and is used to being alone; he says that's his reason for not wanting a relationship. What do I do?
I've been divorced for over a year. I hate online dating — or all dating for that matter. It is stressful and makes me feel sad and bad about myself. There are so many liars out there — how can I trust? But, my question is about open marriage: I met a man whose wife I knew from another friend. I was unaware of their arrangement until we were all out one night. The wife left for a date, and I was chatting with her husband — we just hit it off. Then, he asked, "Are we gonna kiss now?" So, we did. It was incredible kissing — that's my thing. The next weekend, it was the same senerio but became more involved. I don't know if I want to continue this (and I hate how compatible we are) but I do know he is only in it for the sex. Can I say I want more of a friendship instead of just a Saturday-night fuck? He texts me every day... I guess I have to treat this as a friends-with-benefits situation because he is married. That way, I can remain sane and not expect any more. Any advice you have on open marriage would be appreciated!