If Your Guilt Is Valid, Banish It By Making Your Restitution Count
Sometimes our guilt is valid. But, what can often happen for guilt-prone people is that we will apologize for what we did, but still feel guilty for the hurt we caused. What gives? Winch says that in most of these situations, it’s because our apology sucks. And, that keeps the guilt going.
Reframe Your Perspective
For many women, a self-induced guilt trip can occur when we feel we aren’t doing enough — like when that voice in our heads tell us we should be studying for the LSATs and preparing a stellar dinner at the same time. In times like these, Krauss Whitbourne suggests a way to prevent guilt: “Make a mental checklist of the things that you are doing right,” she says. This can serve as way of thwarting the negative self-talk that can spur guilty feelings.
Focus On The Here And Now
It’s easy to think that you should be playing with your kid when you’re working. And, it’s just as easy to think you should be working when you’re playing with your kid. But, being otherwise preoccupied with what you think you should be doing just creates a lose-lose situation, because you can never really enjoy much of anything at all.