"This is a common dilemma among women — much more so than men — so you’re not alone. Women are famous for selling themselves short in the workplace. Often, they wait to be given credit where credit is due, but that can mean going years without promotions, raises or recognition. Don't let this happen to you. Women have historically been cast as supporters of other people, and often don’t realize just how much they are putting everyone else ahead of themselves, sabotaging their own success. I hate to quote every awful reality show ever, but you didn't get that job to make friends, you got there to be number one! (Or whatever, they used to say on Top Model.)
So, my answer is: It's time to have a conversation with your boss. It doesn’t have to be accusatory, but can simply outline your accomplishments, how you are an asset to the team, how you have gone above and beyond, and that you would appreciate being more involved in the execution of the ideas. The worst that can happen is that she ignores you, but it sounds like you're being ignored anyway, so why not take the shot? Everyone deserves to have her hard work acknowledged through compensation, verbal recognition, or otherwise. If you're nervous about approaching her, practice beforehand with a co-worker or a friend who has been through something similar. Ultimately,
asking for what you deserve
will get you what you want more often than you would think. If you don’t ask, you will never know, and your resentment will continue to build. This is an opportunity for you to practice what is one of the most important kinds of conversations you can have — at work and in life."
"Let's break this into two separate things: life balance and the issue with your boss. While it's fair to want to act out your frustration, it is also important to imagine the end goal of having 'the talk' with your boss. Coming into her office crying won't get you very far, but there is an art to getting what you want in the work place, so let's strategize about the best way to make your move.