And sure, for some people meditation has worked wonders and seriously, power to them. For me, though, I felt like the fact that I couldn’t clear my mind meant I was a failure. The voices of the people instructing me in the coached meditations felt like judgements. So I took meditation off my self-care list. And it was a weight off my shoulders. Instead, I took a long hard look at myself and realised that what makes me feel good is being around people, working on writing projects that I feel proud of and, erm, doing jigsaw puzzles. I now try and practise all of these things as much as possible. So if your definition of self-care looks completely different from what you see on social media, don't worry; there's no one-size-fits-all solution.