4 Sexy (& Safe) Ways You Can Use Essential Oils To Set The Mood

produced by Anna Jay; photographed by Ruby Woodhouse.
Setting the mood for romance means engaging all the senses. Or, it at least means finding a way to cover up whatever cloying perfume your roommate uses. That's where essential oils come in handy. Not only do they fill the bedroom with a luxurious fragrance, certain types are believed to imbue it with romantic energy. Talk about setting the mood.
According to holistic health practitioners and aromatherapy experts, essential oils (and their accompanying scents) have specific properties that are believed to affect your emotions and frame of mind. That's why you probably associate lavender with tranquility and a good night's sleep or citrus with happiness and a boost in energy.
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When it comes to striking a specifically sexy chord, heady scents like patchouli, vetiver, or sandalwood are known for having sensual connotations. If you're new to using essential oils but want to bring them into the bedroom, start with these three. Or, if you and your partner connect certain smells to your relationship, seek those out while shopping for essential oils — after all, scents can be powerful memory triggers.
Of course, before you use an essential oil in any setting (sexy or otherwise), you should make sure you don't have a sensitivity or a flat-out allergy to it. Do a spot test and use a carrier oil (such as coconut oil or jojoba oil) if you want to use essential oils on your skin. Consult the FDA's list of approved varieties before adding any essential oils to foods or drinks.
Regardless of how you use them, it's never a bad idea to talk to your doctor before dabbling in essential oils. This is especially true for pregnant people, as certain oils can be hazardous depending on your trimester.
Read on to learn more about how you should use essential oils in the bedroom.
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Diffuse the situation.

The first step to being able to set the mood instantly is keeping an essential oil diffuser in your bedroom. With the push of a button, you can fill the room with an appealing and alluring scent. And like we said before, the more senses that are engaged, the better. An essential oil diffuser can play an important role in making your sexy night in feel immersive and special, but be aware that some experts recommend shutting it off after about an hour to keep the smell from getting too heavy.
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Offer a massage.

Giving or receiving a slow and steamy massage is excellent foreplay. It is known. Using an oil that only heightens said steaminess will surely win you bonus points. If your partner has had a long day, try a calming variety like lavender or one that's associated with love and care, like rose. Or, if you have plans for a long night of fun, stick with vetiver. It's earthy enough to soothe your partner's mind and muscles, but sweet enough to make them think of activities other than sleep. Don't forget your carrier oil.
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Get in the tub.

Seeress, shaman, and founder of Mama Medicine Deborah Hanekamp loves adding essential oils to baths when she wants to create a certain effect. A dash of rose oil can heighten feelings of devotion, while rose and rosemary oils used together can cultivate love for nature. This is where using scents that remind you of, say, past trips with your partner could really come in handy: Like a good, long massage, an evocative, sensual soak in the tub with your partner is a great stand-in for your normal foreplay. But again, even if you're just adding a few drops to your bathwater, use a carrier oil to protect your skin.
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Think twice before DIY-ing lube.

It's never wrong to want to make sex more slippery, but you need to be extra careful when using products that aren't explicitly marketed as lubes. As good as your favourite rose oil might smell, your best bet is actually to use one of those good old reliable carrier oils, such as coconut oil, and nothing more. Since certain oils can damage latex, condom users should make sure they're in the clear before going to town.
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