When someone's sick, it's considered polite to tell them to get better. But the truth is, there are some illnesses we don't get better from. And as Of Mice and Men lead singer Austin Carlile pointed out in a viral Twitter thread, telling someone to "hurry up and get better" can dismiss the reality of what they're going through. Carlile has Marfan Syndrome, a genetic disorder affecting a protein that forms the body's connective tissue. In October, he announced that he had to stop touring due to the condition.
Around one in every 5,000 people have Marfan Syndrome, which is inherited in three quarters of cases, according to the Marfan Foundation. Lizzie Velasquez, who became a spokesperson against bullying after being deemed the "world's ugliest woman," also has it. The syndrome can manifest in many different ways, but the most potentially fatal symptom is damage to the aorta, which pumps blood through the body, according to the Mayo Clinic. People with Marfan's usually take medication to avoid this problem, and some need heart surgery. Over Twitter, Carlile talked about what it's like to have a condition that you can't recover from and could die from.
While we're usually trying to be considerate when we wish sick people well, this is often done more for ourselves than for them. Sometimes, what they need is for the gravity of their condition to be acknowledged. We applaud Carlile for not trying to force a happy face in the midst of a serious situation.