32 Tips From Phone-Sex Operators To Up Your Dirty Talk

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So, you’ve mastered the art of clever sexting exchanges during lockdown. You’ve even been smart enough to store away some half-naked or fully naked shots (with or without your face, depending on your preference) for when you’re asked to send a dirty pic and you’re wearing sweats. While sexting might be the digital age’s form of tantric discussion — and useful during a global pandemic with social distancing measures in place — the seemingly ancient form of phone sex might seem out-of-date. But it’s not.
With many people currently self-isolating without their partners, phone sex is fast becoming something that more and more couples are exploring. But with many entering into the world of sexy phone calls for the first time, it's fair to say that people have a lot of questions. As phone-sex operator Jenny Ainslie-Turner says, phone sex is less about quick exchanges and more about a total-body experience.
“People think it's just talking dirty on the phone,” Turner tells Refinery29. “What a lot of people don't realise is that the brain is the biggest sexual organ in the body. When you talk, breathe heavy, or moan, you’re doing this through a direct line to the brain.”
But if you need some help perfecting your dirty-talk repertoire and etiquette, don’t worry: We talked to a handful of phone-sex operators and got their best advice for upping your phone-sex game. These (ahem, detailed) tips will help you navigate any sexy call you’re on. Just try not to blush while you read them.

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