This Photo Nails The Way Women Criticise Their Bodies

For many of us, self-love can start with recognising our strengths even if our flaws sometimes seem to outnumber them, and in a pair of side-by-side images on Instagram, blogger and student Louise Aubery nailed our habits for focusing on things that we see as flaws, rather then acknowledging what is good about our bodies.
The side-by-side image shows what others see about her versus how she sees herself, with the former highlighting her "big smile," "long legs," "strong butt," while the latter points out a "big nose," "back fat," and "cellulite."

⚡️ I am guilty. I am here to always be completely honest, because I feel social medias need more of it. | As much as I preach self love and truly made some progress accepting myself, there is something I really struggle with : pictures ? Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS. I always see what is wrong. "Too close". "My nose appears too big." "My legs look too white". "I look terrible" This is usually what follows when someone show me a picture they took of me ? YET, I really do not look at people's flaws first when I look at a picture of someone else ! On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets ❗️So why not do the same with yourself ? We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves. It is not healthy. I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too. ? _____________________________________ ⚡️ Je plaide coupable. Vous savez que l'honnêteté est une valeur que je chérie; et je trouve que ca manque sur les réseaux sociaux. | Malgré que je prêche l'acceptance et l'amour de soi et que j'ai fait de réels progrès sur le sujet, il y a quelque chose avec lequel j'ai toujours beaucoup de mal : les photos ? A chaque fois que je vois une photo de moi, tout ce que je vois en premier sont mes défauts. Je vois toujours ce qui ne va PAS. "Trop proche" "Mon nez paraît trop gros" "J'ai l'air trop blanche" "Supprime" : ce sont généralement mes premières réactions après avoir vu une photo de moi ? Pourtant, ce n'est pas du tout comme ça que je réagis quand je vois une photo de quelqu'un d'autre ! Au contraire, j'ai plutôt tendance à voir leurs atouts ❗️Alors pourquoi je l'applique-t-on pas à nous-même ? On doit vraiment apprendre à ne pas être aussi dur envers soi-même. Ce n'est pas sain. Je vais travailler dessus, et j'espère que vous aussi. ?

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"Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS," she wrote in the post. "I always see what is wrong. 'Too close.' 'My nose appears too big.' 'My legs look too white.' 'I look terrible.'"
She posted the image, she told Metro, because she wanted to practice more honesty.
"I created this post because I feel social media platforms are not quite what they could be and should be – i.e a tool to promote empowerment," she told Metro. "‘Self-criticism comes from several causes. The society we’ve evolved in overemphasises our physical appearances. The influence of role models, the use of photo editing; it puts a great pressure on our shoulders and nourishes the feeling of not being worthy enough."
While social media has the great ability to connect us, she said, it can also cause us to compare ourselves to people who we may think have it better (the grass is always greener, and so on).
"It is important to me to make women feel good about themselves and not otherwise, as Instagram can do sometimes," she tells Refinery29.
As for how to stop criticising ourselves?
"It can’t happen in one day and it all comes down to practice: waking up telling you three things you are grateful for today, stating one thing you like about yourself every time you caught yourself despising something, and actually talking about it with like minded people," Aubery told Metro.
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