Want To Be A Better Kisser? Try These Tips

Kissing is something everyone learned how to do perfectly in high school, right? Wrong. Like every aspect of physical intimacy, kissing technique can always be honed and perfected to suit your changing tastes, as well as your partner's. But the thing is, many adults don't give it enough thought, since learning how to kiss is often associated with our awkward teen years.
In fact, many of us are rushing through foreplay (and presumably, kissing): Researchers have found that the average foreplay lasts 13 minutes, even though most people want it to last a few minutes longer. And what's a fun way to extend foreplay? Among the many awesome options, more kissing. That may sound obvious, but everyone could use a refresher now and then.
So whether you're completely new to the wonderful world of kissing or you just want to sharpen your make-out skills, here are some tips and tricks that will leave your partner begging for more.
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Tease with light touch.

Kissing isn't just about the mouth. And no, eager tongue, it's not all about you, either. To ensure a proper make out session, or to set the mood to initiate one, arouse your partner with light touch.

Try gently brushing your hands along their arms, legs, or back. You might not associate these areas with sexual intimacy, but it can be really exciting to start small and work your way up to the genitals (if that's where you'd like to go, that is). If you glide your fingers up and down your partner's thigh, the eroticism of the tease will enhance your kiss.
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Lean in.

Anticipation is half the fun of kissing, even with someone you've kissed hundreds of times. Rather than just grabbing your partner's face, tease them by taking your time while leaning in. This will up the eroticism level, and give you time to think about all of the things you want to do to them (and vice versa) — which tends to result in the perfect come-kiss-me eyes. Start by making eye contact and pause. When you can tell they're excited, lean in and hover for a moment in front of their lips before kissing them.
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Play with tongue, but know that less is more.

If you want to take a kiss from casual to passionate, begin using tongue. Sex educator Kenneth Play says that it's important to start "nice and slow" when you decide to use tongue so that you don't startle or overwhelm your partner. To transition from a close-lipped kiss to one with tongue, gently stick out your tongue and use it to spread your partner's lips apart, gliding it inside their mouth until your tongues mingle.
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Give neck kisses.

Kissing doesn't always have to be mouth to mouth. One way to turn your partner on during a make-out session is to surprise them by pulling away for a moment to kiss their neck. If you're concerned it will feel abrupt, just remember to wait for a moment that feels like an appropriate time to switch things up, like when you naturally pull back from their mouth to catch your breath.

When the time feels right, gently glide your mouth away from their lips, tilt your head slightly, and plant sexy, slow, sweet kisses up and down their neck. Keep in mind that if your partner is ticklish, this move could result in a giggle fit (which can be fun and silly, and doesn't mean you've ruined the moment).

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